I know he's just blowing smoke . .

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Registered: 12-16-2004
I know he's just blowing smoke . .
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Thu, 01-19-2006 - 2:56pm
but I wish he'd stop. Now he's on this whole big kick that he can just show up whenever he wants and i (or my parents since that's where we live) HAVE to let him in and see our son and there's nothing we can do about it because it says in the divorce papers that he's too see him wheneever he wants (not true -- he has every other Saturday and Sunday and every thursday and phone contact -- i believe as it's stated once a day), but he is calling telling me he can show up whenever he wants and if we don't let him he'll come back with the police -- PL-UESE! this all stems from me wanting an approximate time when he was going to drop something off last night. He told me that if I was going to be home all night (which I was) that there was no reason for me to need a time and it was his MOTHER who told him that i must be up to something if I needed a time .. I just wanted a time frame. Is that totally unreasonable? Ugh.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 01-19-2006 - 3:04pm

No it's not and that is the purpose of the 'visitation agreement'... The next time he decides to smoke that pipe tell him to make sure he brings the police so that you can show them a copy of the visitation agreement and then he can be promptly arrested for trespassing if your parents choose to press charges.

Peace,

Di

***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***

 

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Registered: 12-16-2004
Thu, 01-19-2006 - 3:14pm
Oh, I know it's all just smoke being blown, but still it frustrates me to no end. And I know in all reality that if he tried that the police would laugh in his face and/or be mad at him for "wasting" their time. And when I tell him such .. that he'd have a hard time doing that he goes "well do you want to see" ... umm, yeah buddy. I do want to see. Lets see what your being mad and thinking you have more control than you do gets you!
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 01-19-2006 - 3:27pm

Exactly.....


I know it doesn't do any good at this point but do you ever look back during these times and shudder at the reality that you actual procreated with this creature.


My x2b repulsed me so much one day that I literally barfed on his shoes.

Peace,

Di

***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***

 

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 01-19-2006 - 5:01pm
Tell him, fine, showing up with the police is a good idea.... he MUST learn that respect is very important when you are co-parenting.... and making a phone call to negotiate a fair and reasonable time is just how it's going to be.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 02-23-2005
Fri, 01-20-2006 - 8:57am

That was just too funny... (Not laughing at you.) Just picturing the look on his face. That just sounds like the ideal moment of retaliation. One I'll bet he doesn't care to have repeted to him or anyone.

How did you contain yourself after that?

K:)