I know how I feel but cant move on

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Registered: 10-31-2006
I know how I feel but cant move on
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Sun, 08-12-2007 - 8:02pm
Hi all,
I'm new here....dont really like being here but I'm glad that I found you all. Here's my situation: 9 years ago, when I was 19, I got pregnant by a man age 23 whom I'd only known for a month. Fast forward about 4 months, we were married and had kid #2 about 3 years later. Our kids are now 8 and 5. We got married out of convinience, we both feel that way to this day. I cried and agonized over marrying him but my mom, who's from the stone age, said we need to get married, blah blah. Well, I'm 28 now and I've been a miserable SAHM for the last 6 years. I absolutely dread my husband coming home from work every night. I've lost interest in trying to make the home perfect and have dinner ready for him, all that stuff. I'm ready to LIVE but he is holding me back. We both know this is the right thing. He cheated on me 5 years ago with a stripper and he said he had had feelings for her. I should have left him then but I was so scared of being alone because I never went to school for any kind of education so how could I get a job?
Anyway, we both talked about this alot this weekend and have decided to seperate. How the hell does that work?? WHat happens next? Does he move out? What happens????
Any help would be appreciated.
Jen
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 08-14-2007 - 3:16pm

Hi Jen.... I suggest that you consult with an attorney to find out exactly what your rights and responsibilities are for your situation...... and knowing those "facts" will help make sifting out the emotional part of it a little less cloudy.


We're here with ya!!!!!!!!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~