I must love to be disrespected

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Registered: 01-16-2008
I must love to be disrespected
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Sun, 08-10-2008 - 3:40pm

Why can't some women move on when they know they should?

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Registered: 08-10-2008
Sun, 08-10-2008 - 5:01pm

i feel you. i'm not offically married but am in an 8 year relationship with the father of my son. we have a generally good relationship. meaning, as long as i don't complian things are good. the beginning of this year was rough. we had a lot of problems. sleepless nights of fighting and making up and fighting still. finally i got through to him. i got him to understand where my emotions come from. things were good.


that is until he started slipping up. doing the things i hate. like, not calling to tell me what's he' up too or not calling to tell me his plans changed, not answering my call or answer and tell me he's busy and then doesn't call back right away. staying out with friends or putting them before me, making me feel like my feelings don't matter when clearly i'm upset. not being around when i need comforting from his wrong doing. etc. granted he's not cheating on me or anything, but still. my feelings matter.


he didn't like it when i would go out with friends to the night clubs and things. so i stopped, not like i was going every weekend or anything. just a few times a year, whenever friends from out of town visits. but he said to me that i could go and do things like that as long as i come home when i say, answer his call, and we're not in a middle of arguement etc. and in return he'd do the same. well...he broke that agreement last night.


he wasn't out drinking or anything like that. he was just at his parents house. he didn't come home and today he went fishing with his parents. but the fact that he doesn't show he cares about my feelings, kills me. he knows he's making me upset and he just doesnt come home to show he cares. or at least take a time out and talk to me over the phone.


i feel like i'm at a crossroads today. tomorrow it'll probably be better...i dont know. but i'm really upset with him right now.


i'm sorry about your situation. but i'm somewhat comforted by the fact that there are other women out there that i can relate to. without the usual "move on," "leave him," remarks.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 08-14-2008 - 12:06am

In The Meantime.... by Iyanla Vanzant.... *that's* where you need to start.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~