I need to get over it!

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Registered: 08-09-2007
I need to get over it!
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Thu, 08-09-2007 - 11:06am
I didn't know where else to turn for advice. I split with my partner of four years about five months ago. It was a huge shock as I didn't see it coming, we had just bought a place together and were talking about starting a family and getting married. Literally one day he was telling me I was the love of his life, and the next day he said he didn't love me anymore, and hadn't for over two years. I was devestated, fell into a depression and ended up spending two weeks in a psychiatric unit. I feel like I have just been existing since then, and have continually obsessed about it, wanting him back, wanting things to go back to how they used to. I then found out yesterday that he is seeing someone who I considered to be a really good friend. In fact, she was his best friend's (who he lives with) ex girlfriend. This news has devestated me, I can't stop thinking about it, and have started to sink into another depression, not showering or eating, and crying loads. I am thinking really negatively, like I'll never find anyone else, and telling myself I really need to get over this. I would really apprecite any advice you have to give, and if you have had any similar experiences.
Thanks
Claire
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Registered: 11-25-2003
Thu, 08-09-2007 - 12:20pm

Good afternoon Claire,

(Claire is one of my favorite women's names!)

If you spent two weeks is a psychiatric unit, you probably left with a prescription for anti-depressants. Or maybe something stronger.

You need to get to the doctor/psychiatrist who wrote the prescriptions and discuss your mental/physiological state -- you should not sink so easily back into a depressive state. Either you are on the wrong medications, or the dosing in inadequate. Either way, you need to get in touch with the doctor.

Secondly, what is happening is sad, and you need to greive. But you need to be vigilant about your mental state so you can monitor when you are being sad/greiving versus depressive.

Over time, you will get over this and meet new people. Read about the stages of greiving. Soon you'll enter anger. And in this case, its warranted and righteous!

Stay in touch.