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| Wed, 09-19-2007 - 10:13am |
My ex moved 4 hours away. he has been great about seeing the kids often. but the kids want/need him in their life more. my job is easier to replace than his. Should I move where he is so the kids can see dad whenever they want?
My EX and I have discussed this and he encourages the idea. everyone else in my life thinks I am crazy. they say I shouldn't have to move my life for him...but the way I see it I am moving for the kids.

L2L.
I think your idea is fine in principle, so long as your wish to be near your ex is for your children and not for you. Are you harboring any feelings for your ex? What is your relationship like with him?
No matter what your job is, your livelihood would be affected if you move. I would be very, very careful here if I were you. What if he up and moves again? Are you going to follow this man all over when you aren't married to him?
How old are your children? What is the parenting schedule if you do not move? What are the schools like in the new location? Are you moving away from your own support system, i.e. your parents or siblings or good friends? There is a lot to consider other than keeping your kids close to their father. He made the decision to move away, now you have to decide what is in the best interest of your children. If you suffer a setback in your career or have no support system, that affects your children also.
Good luck!
Cat
Mom to 5: DS-17, DD-16, DD-11, DD-9, DS-7
In our separation agreement, my ex and I stipulated that we would remain within 25 miles of my daughter's school (K-12).
I understand the position that you are in.
I do not think this decision is one that should be reached very quickly.