I ran into him today after 7 mths
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I ran into him today after 7 mths
| Wed, 12-06-2006 - 1:11am |
After 7 long months. Haven't seen or heard from him in 7 mths. Well yesterday was my moms birthday so I figured I would go back home too see my mom and brang the kids to surprise her and we went out to the mall shopping and Who do I run into their dad. My mouth dropped and I have SO much anger built inside me . This man left me with all 5 kids and not one care in the world. So he comes to me and ofcourse blaming me for everything. Now I had caught him in bed with anyone woman and Clearly believes I did something wrong. Then he drops a bomb on me that he is having another baby with the girl I caught him in bed with. Ok this is a man that went from being a fulltime dad to our children to a deadbeat dad and now he is having another one. I'm sorry but I slapped him. I am raising our kids and making tough decisions with my 2 boys who are specialneeds all bymyself and I feel it's not fair. He did not say i'm sorry or nothing. Didn't even try to hold our 18 mth old baby. I feel So betrayed and i'm so angry how he could just start a new family and nt take care of the family he had before and not care.

HI!
your ex is insane and definitely irresponsible. I understand your anger... you are really in a difficult position. When I think that he walked happily out leaving you with a baby less than a year old!!! that child will never know who his father is (and he may be better off.... ).
Now, you are doing a tremendous job. you are being a responsible person, giving love and care to all your little ones, and taking care of everybody. Do not - please!!! - forget yourself in the process. The best way to make your children happy is to be happy yourself - it may seem a tall order today, but little by little you are going to rebuild a life and will find many ways to be happy again. It is good that you are not too often in touch with your ex - keep it that way.
Is your divorce final? are child support payments defined? I fear not, because if he was paying support for 5 children, he may have been more careful in starting a new family... you should at least get the financial support you need and deserve!
I pretty sure you imagined you slapped him. I'd hate like heck for a forum like this to be a possible source of an admission of a misdemeanor or felony, and this nitwit sounds like the kind who'd do something bad. I just cannot imagine you'd actually do this, I'm sure it was wishful thinking.
Sue the testicles of this guy. He's the kind of man that has made my life, as a man, in family court a living hell.
Get ridiculous financial orders against him so he's sure to fail, and then bring contempt charges against him when he can't make payment. Then maybe he can spend a night or three in jail and learn why you ought to obey the laws of polite sociaety.
I'm sorry--that really sucks... sending lots of hugs your way...
Julie (I would have slapped him too!)