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| Wed, 08-30-2006 - 12:22pm |
I was served yesterday at work with divorce papers and temporary orders. My husband is looking for primary physical custody of our 2 kids and joint legal custody in the tep. orders. Right now we split them 50/50 and have been since I moved out of the house on June 1st. I moved because I couldnt afford to live there. He cited in the divorce decree irritrievable breakdown.
I am so nervous that he is going to get custody of my kids and only give me visitation rights!
Also, I started seeing someone when we separated and he doesn't like this man....he thinks he's an alcoholic, which he is not. I WOULD NOT put myself or my kids through that. Can he put some sort of stipulation in the divorce that my kids cannot be around him?
Does anyone know anything about this??? I am meeting with my lawyer tomorrow morning.
Edited 8/30/2006 12:29 pm ET by irishkate7

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Thank you to all who responded....I do feel a little better after reading your posts. I am just so nervous about this whole thing...it's all I think about.
Another question.....what should I expect for the 1st hearing? Do I need to talk at all? I suffer from panic attacks, and im already freaking myself out.
Also, no one said anything about a Guardian ad Lietem. I wrote in my previous post that they are already looking into having the courts issue one. Do any of you have experience with that?
I am so thankful that I have found this site! And thank you again to all of you who have written...
Kate
Hi, first take a deep breath. I know how scary this all is. Im going through it now myself. I wasnt legally married to my ex so for me things may be bit different. He is suing my for joint custody and at first I was scared to death. Im in nyc and Im not familiar with the guardian ad lietem unless its the same as when the child has a lawyer called a law guardian. My son is 3 1/2 yrs old and this is what he has. How old are your kids? Ex and his lawyer also are trying to make me out as being unfit. This is a ploy with all ex's it seems. They want to scare us by threatening to take our kids away. Ex's lawer requested a pshychiatric evaluation claiming that I have a history of mental illness in my family. Such a dirty trick. What I dont think he was expecting is that we both had to talk to a psychiatrist. There were two of them, they shared with me during my time with them that ex seems to have alot of unresolved anger and seems as though he would benefit from some counseling and doesnt seem to know what he really wants. I was so glad, I cant wait to hear there report. I just pray they dont change it ya know. This just shows just what cowards they are to pull these tricks.
You mentioned that you left work to take care of the kids. How do you support yourself and the kids? What state are you in? Try this website called divorce magazine .com I found some good info on there as well. Think about holidays, a visitation schedule, times you'd want him to have the kids. Stuff like that.
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