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| Tue, 06-21-2005 - 7:49am |
Hello,
As I've mentioned before my husband is in the Army and we are over in Germany.We separted about five weeks ago and he moved into the barracks.He came back from Iraq in Feb.and started seeing this girl he met online.Because he was arrested, once for a domestic dispute and the second time for making threats to me and then harrassing me at work, we were put on a no contact order.So, I haven't talked to him for almost a month now.My husband's 1st SGT called me this morning to come in and have a meeting with the battalion's command sergeant major (for those who don't know military lingo thats basically a high ranking important person!. I met the seargant major and he basically wanted to make sure that if the Army pays to send me back to the states I can't come back.Duh! I know that and thats what I want! So, now me going home is going to be delayed a few more weeks. After the meeting my husband and I ended up talking for about a half an hour, the longest we've talked in a month.He said that him and his gf are over and when I asked if she was pregnant he looked at me like I was crazy.Apparently this was the first he had heard.He also mentioned that he was just taken off restriction from the last time he got arrested.Because he harrassed me at work his unit restricted him to the base he lives on and can't leave without special permission.This seemed odd to me because when his gf called me a couple of weeks ago she said that he had taken her to the Alps for her birthday.He had no idea what I was talking about when I asked him that.He said that he wasn't able to leave the base and even if he could he had no money (read my earlier posts about closing down our accounts).Obviously this guy lies, but I do believe he was on restriction because that is how the Army works.I don't know his gf, but now Im thinking that she was making up crap just to get to me.We talked a little bit more about how things were going with us and he answered all the questions I've had over the last few weeks.Now I'm finding out that he has been writing checks on our account even after they were closed.So, thats something we are going to have to figure out when the checks start going through.He can get discharged from the army for writing bad checks.I offered him some money to get some food.I figured I took all of our savings and his last couple of paychecks when the accounts closed so I can handle giving him some.Plus, I dont really have any bills since he took the car.He refused the money.He said that I'm going back to the states soon and it might be awhile before I get a job so he wants me to have as much money as possible.I really tried to at least give him money to eat and he still refused.He said he has to figure it out for himself that he got himself into this.On the good side, he is finally going to mental health regularly.He is bipolar and the Army won't give him adequate medicine.His bipolar got so extreme in Iraq that when he got home his life just fell apart.He is going to enroll in classes this fall too.I'm actually happy for him.I just want him to be healthy and happy.I feel some guilt that I couldn't see him through his illness...I really really tried.But, in the process I began to lose a big part of myself.He said that he wanted to send me home so he can get his head cleared and I don't have to put up with his sickness and behaviors.I agree with all that.I'm not sure, but I don't think he wants a divorce.The way he was talking made me think that.Unfortunately, I think at this point its going to be inevitable.I really really love him and I'm going to miss him.Thanks for reading this long post.
Brooke

I'm glad your getting to come back to the states. Hopefully you can get your life back together. It does sound like the x-gf was trying to bother you by telling you a bunch of lies. Your lucky that your dh wants you to have all that money to get back on your feet, by coming back and letting him get the treamtent he needs may really have a big impact on both of your lives. I wish the best for you that would really suck to be over there all alone. I've read your posts before and you seem to be keeping it together, your a very strong person. Where are you moving back to?
Stacy
Kentucky