I told my ex about the surgery....

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Registered: 06-11-2004
I told my ex about the surgery....
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Tue, 09-13-2005 - 11:10am

Surprisingly enough it was my sister that made the suggestion about calling him. Up until today I was still going back and forth about whether I should tell him about the surgery

When Jay and I got back from the pre-screening this morning my sister said I should call his dad. It would be the right thing to do since the baby is so young and it is surgery. I was surprised b/c I know how she feels about him and has every right to feel the way she does. So here I was thinking not to dare ask her opinion about it and out she suggests to tell him. So with the advice of you guys and her I called him.

I was nervous. I thought he might hang up on me, he didnt. He sounded shocked and concerned. Asking me questions. Asked me where the baby was right then. Then he said he would call me later when he got home to get more information.

Whew! I know in my heart I did the right thing. I just hope that it doesnt backfire in my face.

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Registered: 09-17-2004
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 12:54pm
You know, what's best for your son is the most important thing here.
Sanguine
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 1:01pm
I am sure you will feel better going into the surgery for your little guy, knowing his father knows, & has the option of being caring about it or not. There is no way it can come back at YOU know.

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Registered: 06-11-2004
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 1:16pm

Thank you so much for your support.

Its just like you said. At least I gave him the opportunity. If he screws it up then I can walk away and not call him again with a 110% clear conscience. I am wondering myself what he will do. He hasnt seen the baby in 3 months.

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Registered: 06-11-2004
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 1:19pm
I will feel better about it. The surgery is scheduled for tomorrow. They will keep him overnight since he is so young.
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 1:45pm
He will be in my prayers!

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Registered: 06-11-2004
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 2:02pm
Thank you so so much. You dont know how much that means to me.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 6:14pm

Good luck and be well vibes sent your little guy's way! I hope his recovery is swift and that you see immediate results.


Melanie

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Registered: 06-14-2004
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 10:07am

Hugs, luv. Keeping your little one in my thoughts today.

I do think you did the right thing to call his father, and hope he came to visit alone. If he did bring his gf, just remember that he's trying to get under your skin and you don't have to let him. He wants you to get upset because that makes him feel like he still has power over you. If you take away the power by not reacting to his face (you can rant all you want later to your friends and us here), the appeal of flaunting his gf will wear off.