I was date #5

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Registered: 11-25-2005
I was date #5
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Mon, 11-28-2005 - 9:14pm

I cancelled my profile on the OLD, it was getting old and so were the liars. I do not need it right now I guess. The guy I thought was so great changed his screen name, yesterday was date 4 I figured out and now it is date 5, that is me, I was just a figure. I blocked him from everything and even removed my instant messenger.

I am to focus on myself right now..
I hate being alone, but it sure is a hell of a lot better than being lied too! Anyone who is on Match.com, watch out for a guy who goes by the name str8up5..you may be six................

Yeah I am bitter...

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Registered: 06-17-2004
In reply to: newd_2005
Tue, 11-29-2005 - 11:02am

(((Hugs)))


Men stink sometimes. I haven't had much luck with Match.com either. My biggest problem has been that I'm getting emails from 50+ year old men (I'm 25) and also some very vulgar emails. I cancelled my account as well. I've had some success with Yahoo though. In fact, I met a really wonderful guy there who I've been seeing. However, it would be a good idea to just forget guys for a bit and discover what you really want. I didn't like being alone either. However, when STBX and I separated I was pregnant. This turned out to be a wonderful thing b/c I wasn't able to start dating too soon. I was forced to be alone and deal with it and to even enjoy it. I don't think I'm going to give up half of my king-sized bed ANY time soon! LOL

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: newd_2005
Tue, 11-29-2005 - 11:06am

I think that canceling your profile was a smart move.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: newd_2005
Tue, 11-29-2005 - 5:23pm

I agree you need to take time for yourself and not date yet.

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Registered: 11-25-2005
In reply to: newd_2005
Tue, 11-29-2005 - 7:37pm

I'm not looking for a partner, I had one who ended up being a "partner in crime." I just am new to all of this, cetainly not looking for a committment! But not looking to be played. I am focusing my energy at work and at home. I am also looking for another job.. hoping to meet people my age and a larger company.. I am not used to new "players" I have been played for the duration of my marriage so to speak. I forgot there were so many...

I just thought it was rude that you ask someone out, say you had a good time and then find out immediately after your date, that person is on the online dating site again, I guess..

I am taking care of me, just getting outside the box is a very scary thing. I blocked the idiot from emailing me, not that he would. If he "does call", which is a 99 percent chance of no, I think I will refuse. The rudeness turned me off. I am just tired of stupid men..are there any out there that are normal?

It is hard to enjoy a date when you go to the movies and that is it, there is no communication..

I have to learn a lot I can see, I have been controlled for too long. I am enjoying more being alone than wondering if some man will call me. Now I am on the dating site again and letting them find me..my profile was blunt and to the point. I get fewer responses, but they seem to be better, I weed out a lot of the jerks..this profile will do it and it pretty much insulted the guy(s)I went out with too..and all the others I had before. I know they still look online...

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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: newd_2005
Tue, 11-29-2005 - 8:18pm

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Registered: 11-12-2004
In reply to: newd_2005
Tue, 11-29-2005 - 11:01pm
I probably have no right saying much of anything, since I have NO dates to draw experience on, but I believe that if the guy has not committed or rather made any promises, he has complete freedom to date as often and as many people as he wants. It only becomes misleading when he tells you you're the one and nobody else, then decides he wants to date other people. On a first date, the guy can't even be called a friend since you don't know anything about him, except that he dates. Unless there are stories of how he is telling each date that they are the only one for him, it is an unfair reason to judge someone as 'a player' I would think. Especially since it sounded clearly like he wasn't dating to get something from you (eg money, sex, ....). Sounds like he just wanted to meet you. He met you and perhaps he might like to learn a bit more about you. Perhaps he doesn't feel it will work out so is moving on. In that case he is being very civil to not spout a bunch of lies or promises to you. So far it doesn't at all sound like he is stringing anyone along yet. After frequent intimate dates over several months and the guy is still dating others, then maybe then he starts to sound like a player. But a bit too early to make that judgment.