I was here over a year ago now.....
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I was here over a year ago now.....
| Mon, 02-25-2008 - 12:47pm |
because I was going through a divorce.
| Mon, 02-25-2008 - 12:47pm |
because I was going through a divorce.
Kate-
I was not the one that wanted my divorce but my husband did because he thought "the grass was greener" and then 2 1/2 years after the fact he realized his mistake. In that 2 1/2 years I moved in with my boyfriend and he BOUGHT a house with his girlfriend. Anyway... each year since we've been apart he's come to me and told me he still loves me, wants a second chance, blah, blah, blah. The last time he did that, this past Fall '07, he even went so far as to tell his parents he was leaving his GF, he loved me still, basically making EVERYONE we knew as a couple believe that he wanted to try again... well guess what?? NEVER happened... he was ALL talk and NO action. Now, each time he did this to me I willingly believed him, pushed away my BF (that's why he is now my ex-BF), didn't go out with other men who asked me all because I was waiting for him. I don't blame your XH for not wanting anything to do with you... if you were on the receiving end as I was, would you believe anything said for even one minute? For me, I had to finally tell him that I wanted nothing more to do with him (we had no kids together) and that he made his choice and it was time he lived with his regrets... I felt his rejection for so long and I knew that if I was ever to have a life I needed to break that bond. My suggestion to you would be to let it go... think about if wanting him back is nothing more then realizing your past with him wasn't so bad and that he's familiar... and comfortable. Or it could be that you just still feel guilty about it all... I hope that I'm not coming across as mean.. that's not my intent... Just think about what you are doing... based on your post everyone involved seems to have adjusted... do you want to to disrupt it all for a second chance that according to statistics don't ever work out? Dig deep inside yourself and then decide what to do...
I wish you the best
Ali
Hi Ali,
Thank you for responding to my post.
I left my ex 4 years ago.