I wish I would have never called him

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Registered: 06-11-2004
I wish I would have never called him
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Tue, 09-13-2005 - 4:20pm

My ex called a little while ago asking me about the information for the surgery tomorrow. We have to be there at 6am. So I tell him and he says to call him tomorrow with the room # and he will come to see him. I said okay and then politely said can you come by yourself tomorrow please. He was like who I come there with isnt your concern. So I said no I mean when you come to his room, please come by yourself. He was like (with an attitude) who I come with doesnt concern you. I said look I dont want to argue, im asking you, I dont care who you come to the hospital with, I mean when you come to the room, I wanted it to be clear that I meant the baby's room. Then he says well if you are that concerned when Im on my way I will call you and you can leave his room. WHAT THE F#^K! He hasnt seen him for over 3 months and I do the right thing in calling him and he cant even give me the respect of not coming to our son's room without one of his
bi#$%#s who none of whom have ever given me any respect! I didnt yell or scream or anything as i am still at work but I just said, You mean you are actually considering bringing someone to his room? He said yes. I just hung up the phone.

My god, why is he like this? I did the right thing by telling him. Why is he so nasty. I wish to God I would have never told him anything. What's wrong with this man. Now he'll probabyly for sure come there tomorrow with someone just to spite me. Im not calling him to tell him the room #. Im gonna tell the hospital not to give out any information about my son, can I do that.

If they cant do that, can I demand that anyone other than the baby's parents be banned from the room?

Oh God, I cant believe this

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Registered: 06-17-2004
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 5:17pm
What a pathetic loser!!! My STBX is a jerk, but at least he's never even thought of bringing his gf around me or the boys. Probably b/c he knows I'd lose it! lol You did the right thing by calling him. You should tell him the room number or he'll use it as an excuse not to show or he'll use it against you. You can tell the hospital not to give out info, they will not even let anyone who calls/comes by know that you are there.
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Registered: 10-20-2004
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 5:17pm
well, you definitely did the right thing. life is so unfair sometimes. i would certainly try to get the hospital not to allow anyone but parents into the room. i would certinly give it your all. good luck.
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Registered: 06-13-2005
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 9:24pm

The more you let him know that it bothers you, the more he is going to do it. Take the high road. No matter what you feel like at the time that you are dealing with him whether by telephone or in person, never let him know that he got to you. I swear my favorite saying in the whole world is from a deodorant commercial. "Never let them see you sweat".

Eventually, they will give up trying. Suck it in hon. He is a toad, but you don't have to stoop to his level. Just remember that she has your sloppy seconds!

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 2:33am

You ABSOLUTELY have the option to say who does & who doesnt go into his room or visits. You have full sole custody, right?

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Registered: 09-17-2004
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 8:37am
I'm sorry, Luv....what a jerk.
Sanguine
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 6:37pm
Im curious how things turned out. I hope everything went okay. My son is set for hernia surgery on Oct 6th and my ex and I are on such bad terms right now, we are communicating only through email, but I know that he will be bringing his new gf to the surgery. This actually will be the first time Ive met her and her and I do not get along. Weve talked on the phone, but thats it. I think its horrible for him to bring her to my baby's surgery, its like what are her rights, she is not his mother, shes just a gf, someone passing by. Anyway, let us know how things worked out.
God Bless.
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Registered: 09-17-2004
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 7:49pm
You know what gets me is that these women think they belong there and that it's all about THEM.
Sanguine