If I had to name just one thing....

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-08-2004
If I had to name just one thing....
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Sat, 04-29-2006 - 3:03pm

...this board has done for me.......it has given me hope. I started posting on the Divorced Under 30 Board (which no longer exists) over three years ago when my ex and I separated for the first time.The DU 30 board merged with this one, and I was scare for a while. A little over a year ago, I came back here. I was CONVINCED I was the only one going through this misery and MY situation was impossible, unique, etc. I truly believed there was no way I could possibly leave my marriage without going completely broke and becoming destitute. Then I started reading the stories and advice of a group of wonderful women. Ladies here were everywhere in the divorce process...from thinking about divorce, to the newly separated, to one's who had been divorced for several years. Their answers and advice all had the same theme - YOU CAN DO IT! I didn't believe it, for a LONG time. But reading these stories and heeding their advice started to give me some strength. Reading their stories about how well they were doing in their lives gave me hope....and that is what I really needed.


For those of you just starting the process, I promise you, there IS hope. You can have a rich and fulfilling life.


And thank to to all the ladies on this board,

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 04-29-2006 - 11:06pm

Definitely!.... Because of this board, I was able to see that "all things are possible".


I felt so miserable and helpless in a very unfulfilling marriage.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2006
Sun, 04-30-2006 - 10:33am
This board has made me feel like I'm not the only one out there going through this. It's nice to have some validation of my feelings and concerns. I hate to "bother" my friends and family all the time, so I can write on here and get advice any time. And everyone on here has been nice and supportive, no pointing fingers or negative comments. Thanks!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 04-30-2006 - 11:27am

i couldn't agree more!

this board has been a 'safe place' for me, because i know that no matter what i post here --- people "here" can understand me in a way that my other friends cannot. even tho each of our stories are different, we are all dealing with similar stuff.

thanks board!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-11-2004
Mon, 05-01-2006 - 11:24am

I've said it before and I'll say it again. This board saved my life in many ways. After my breakup I was so lost, confused, hurt, angry, I could go on. I talked to my family but there were things that I felt I just couldnt share with them. My friends were great but again after a while you feel they will get tired of you talking about it. They never expressed that but you still worry in the back of your mind ya know.

I have met such wonderful, strong women here. The most important thing was they knew EXACTLY WHAT I WAS FEELING. I too found strength here, unimaginable strength. This board is amazing. I know it would have been a much harder thing to overcome this ordeal without this board.

One of the things that gets me through when I have a bad day is that though this was an earth-shattering event in my life and it hurt and at times still does I on a whole am truly blessed. I have a roof over my head, a job, a loving family, friends and an terrific, healthy little guy that loves me to pieces and I adore with every part of my soul. I mean it takes him longer to learn some things but he is on a whole he is healthy.

There are people out there who dont have half of what I have. People who have much bigger problems than I do. What's usually on my mind: when my ex acts like a jerk, hoping he'll get his payback for hurting me and destroying our family, wondering when I'll find my "knight in shining armour" wondering does ex miss me and ever wish he could win me back. That's minor compared to what some people have to worry about.

So today I will focus on being grateful for all that I have. I do have much.
Thank You.