Ignorance, or judgemental?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2005
Ignorance, or judgemental?
5
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 11:02pm

Do any of you have friends or family who look down upon you for wanting out? It seems even though everyone knows the awful situation that I am believes that I am doing the wrong thing. Those poor kids, have to live with divorced parents! WTF???? They are and have been living with emtionally divorced parents in the same house for far to long!!!

My favorite is when someone tries to pretend they know exactly what I am going through and how I feel, but they would stay because the kids deserve 2 loving parents under the same roof. Oh, and another good one, "do you know how people will see a 28 year old divorced mother of 2"? "They won't look at you in a very good light"! What the He!!, are we still living in the 50's here? If so, then someone please wake me up!!

I was very upset with people until I realized this is a joke, and I have to stop giving a rats ass what people think!!!

Sorry for the rant, I am just so p!ssed off at people thinking they are better then me because they were/are dumb enough to live their whole lives unhappy..

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-28-2003
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 11:25pm

I do what is best.

I don't do what everyone thinks I should do.

I trust my judgment.

If a marriage is bad, it's over. Easy.

Eh, let them wonder ;)

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2004
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 7:40am
My favorite is when I say how dd lives with both of us (50/50 custody) and people say "Oh that must be so hard on her" either because she's a child of divorce or sometimes meaning she would be better off with her dad EOW and me most of the time. I say no, she does beautifully and she is very lucky to have both her parents involved in her life. If they are meaning she'd be better off with EOW visitation, I say well she could either miss her dad MOST of the time, or she could miss each of us a little bit, and I think missing each of us only a little bit is much easier on her.

Photobucket

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2005
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 8:02am

This sort of has to do with the subject....


My family has not been close to me in a couple of years. Pretty much since H left.


He left while I was pregnant with our daughter. After I had my daughter my boyfriend and I took the kids to see my family. ( we had been together maybe a month or so ) We stopped at my aunt's house, everything went great. They loved my BF and were happy to see the kids. We stopped at my grandmothers house and everything went great. My grandma only slipped once and said something about XH and "isn't it hard being without him" or something like that... but you have to know her to love her. Then my grandma said "I bet your aunt J would like to see the kids!" I agreed ( even though I hadn't spoken to her since something happened earlier just after XH left ) She called my aunt and my aunt would NOT see us because she didn't approve of my BF. WHAT?????


Ok, so XH left me and moved in with OW IMMEDIATELY. This was 7-8 months after he left me. So I am just supposed to sit around without anyone ( not that I was looking, it sort of just happened that I met him and we hit it off ) while he is living his happy life with OW????? hehehehe. It BUGGED me at first, I was like ok, he ISNT coming back! But then I realized that I am me and I make my own decisions. I am proud of my decisions. period, end of story... :)


iVillage Member
Registered: 06-11-2004
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 10:40am

They are IGNORANT 150% It's unreal. My family and friends applaud me for having the courage to kick his butt to the curb. They support me completely. No one should have to take crap like that. You know what, the kids suffer more when you stay and try to make it work and one of you isnt willing. KIDS ARE VERY SMART, they know when something's wrong.

YOU deserve to be happy. Someone on the outside looking in always has a POW of what YOU should do. When if they were faced with the same situation you better bet your BUTT that they are gonna do what is BEST for them and not give a rats ass about what YOU think they SHOULD do.

Follow your heart and then double check it with your mind. Make sure they both agree

Hugs to you

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2005
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 9:02pm
Thanks for listening to my rant. I love this site! I have never one to "give up" on anything so when people start questioning me, I have to wonder if I am really just giving up! But then I remember, He!! no I am not giving up, he did along time ago and I was to blind and trusting not to follow in his foot-steps sooner!