I'm all alone
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| Thu, 06-09-2005 - 11:54pm |
I can barely manage to type.
I'm all alone in New York City. I have no friends. My husband threatened me nothing if I didn't divorce right away. Two weeks before he said he wanted the divorce, he promissed he would never ever leave me. And we would finally have a child of our own. I'm 37. He's 67. And girl friend is 26. We were married 11 years. I raised his 8 year old son. Now my son has just graduated highschool. And I'm out. I've been living in a half empty apartment. Trying to be so careful with every dime. And I found out he's been living in a huge fancy hotel with his 26 year old girlfriend since March.
I found this out when I picked up the mail at our PO Box, which I never do. I also found out that he's been hiding money, like $500,000 or more in all these business accounts. And in an account for her too. I also found out that he' has a summer house in East Hamton. Now he's furious because, I READ HIS MAIL. And I wouldn't give it back to him.
He now refuses to speak with me or help me get into my new small apartment.
I have no friends in NY. I have no job. I can't shower or change. I can barely get my dog out on a walk. I feel so guilty for her.
I have to get it together and pack prepare to move. But I can't get out of bed or away from the TV, my only companion. I don't know what to do. My life is a mess.
I'm so scared and lonely.

hugs... I don't have any advice for you - but i just want you to know that you are not alone. I don't know what the laws are in NY rgarding property - but i think you should speak to a lawye and find out what your rights are.
remember - knowledge is power
Also, please see your doctor about getting a mild tranqulizer or sleeping pills to help you thru this rough time. you don't want to take pills forever, but it sounds like you could use help to get thru this time.
I know that right now you are overwhelmed, but try (TRY!!!) breaking things down into little steps. do things one at a time.
hugssss
You are in no way shape or form alone. Dont ever feel that way.
First off, it sounds like your jerk of a husband is very wealthy. Why else would a 26yr old be with a 67yr old. Ick. Your age difference is a wide enough gap itself.
Second, are you legally married? If so, he cant just "cut you off". NO, no honey, it doesnt work like that. Please give more details about your situation.
I dont agree that you should start taking sleeping pills. NO WAY. I know how overwhelming all this can be, but you have us. My email is bredgirl2004@aol.com. I dont know how religious you are if at all, but read the 37th Psalm .
I look forward to hear more from you.
I know you feel alone right now, but you're really not. You've reached out to everyone here, and that's a great first step. I understand that you feel so overwhelmed right now, so try starting small - if it feels like you can't go out or do anything, try just starting with a shower, and go from there. It sounds to me like you really need to have someone to talk to-have you thought about counselling? It also sounds like you really need to consult with a lawyer. I think you may be entitled to more than you're being offered.
Hang in there - it will get better.
-sang