I'm assuming he's been served....

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I'm assuming he's been served....
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Thu, 08-21-2008 - 4:42pm

Earlier today he'd sent an email asking how we were going to handle something re: the children.


I didn't reply.


He just sent a second email, using the one from this a.m., saying, "nevermind."


Why can he still make me feel so bad when he's the alcoholic, who is a liar, with poor decision-making skills and lacks his family as the priority.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 8:04pm

Keep your guard up... and for now be thankful that he's communicating via e mail.... and not pounding through your front door :-)


Keep us updated!!!!!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 07-30-2008
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 9:28pm
my wonderful husband, is home in the house and won't leave! And to boot I made dinner for the girls and he sat down to eat it!! I told him I didn't make dinner for him.. the damn nerve!

"This new  path I must lead will lead me to europhoria"

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Thu, 08-21-2008 - 9:59pm
Oh my.... I do remember that I stopped washing his clothes, stopped buying his deodorant, etc... things like that that I could control :-)

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 06-06-2003
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 6:42am
Isn't it just amazing how these guys still feel they can do whatever they want? My X would still come on the property to hunt, look for things he might have forgot even though there was a court order telling him he wasn't allowed.
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Fri, 08-22-2008 - 8:25am

MY STBX always had big brass b*lls. The eating dinner that I prepared was just made me infuriated! I know he is home during the day, searching for papers, as we are still in that phase of gathering out assessts.


I'm so devasted, yet I think? who the hell would want him???? he is so aragant and nasty and flys off the handle... what woman would want to feel intimadated by a bully?????

"This new  path I must lead will lead me to europhoria"

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Registered: 04-18-2008
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 8:42am

I can relate too this one... I'm the one up at 5:45 to get the kids up for school and make lunches for everyone, yes, including him, work from 8-5:30 run home to empty out the dishwasher, reload it, cook dinner, clean up from dinner, help with homework until 10:30 while he sits around and surfs the net or watches TV...OH did I forget to mention 10 loads of laundry , yes his as well, all the food shopping...the list is endless....


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Fri, 08-22-2008 - 9:28am

My EX did all that... PLUS sit around and whine about when I was coming to bed because he wanted SEX.... so while I'm taking care of household stuff AND OUR CHILDREN.... he's being a big *A* baby himself.


That's all history now :-)


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Fri, 08-22-2008 - 11:35am

You know, I had a thought while reading about the lazy men out there we are/were married to....I KNOW there are women who are just as bad...so here's hoping we each find a nice man who does all the things we've had to do, in his family because his wife/ex-wife is a deadbeat, lazy arse, and then what a partner we'd have in that man!! If we want such a situation/relationship again....


Just a thought to keep using looking forward to a rewarding and happy future once these storm clouds all clear!

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Fri, 08-22-2008 - 12:01pm

Oh I *hope* it's not *all* men who are bad.... (but it sure does feel good to bash them in mass :-)


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Fri, 08-22-2008 - 1:21pm

One of the workers who did some wood rot repair on our house yesterday was telling me he'd been divorced 4 years and he has primary custody of his two boys, ages 15 & 11 (and it sounded like there was good reason the mom wasn't in the picture). That always intrigues me, because I cannot imagine not being with my kids...but I know motherhood isn't for everyone (even after they've become a mother). But this guy was decent looking, seemed hard working, was engaged in his boy's lives, etc.


My prayer tonight: OK, God, so wait about a year and then drop one of those in my lap please.

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