I'm a bundle of nerves again
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| Sat, 07-14-2007 - 9:46am |
Hi everyone-
EX is at it again. He is trying to negociate CS. For two weeks, I have been avoiding him except for the kids visitation. He wants to have a face to face conversation because he doesn't want to hire a lawyer. He tells me last wed. that I'm avoiding him. Yea, I am cuz I don't need to be controlled by him. I'm sick of him demeaning me during the last two phone conversations he has had with me. It takes me awhile to pick myself up from the dirt he has rubbed my face into. I am moving on. Last night, he basically won't let me not give him a time and place to have this face to face. Today, I'm just a bundle of nerves. I can't take his attitude anymore. We are suppose to meet tomorrow after he drops off the kids. He tells me he wants to be friends and not be mad at each other. I'm sorry but when someone calls you every name in the book, stabs you in the back, and watches you physically harm yourself without intervening, I think that person checked out and is no longer someone you need in your life. With a friend like him, who needs an enemy?
Why can't he just stop rubbing salt into my wounds? He owes my 4 weeks of CS, doesn't pay for kids health insurance, didn't get the required insurance, still owes alimony, owes me 10K, and yet I'm being selfish by not meeting him halfway when exchanging the kids. WHEN DOES THIS HORSESH** END? God - give me the strength to make it through this day!

Sending you hugs.
Sounds to me like at a minimum you should meet in the presence of a mediator. GL
M
Sweetie, I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I agree with the previous poster about a mediator. With an impartial person, he can't control or manipulate you are the situation.
Hugs to you.
Hi there overreacting,
You know, if you don't want to meet with him, then don't. Your responsibility is to tell him that you do not want to meet. If he asks why, you tell him that he's creepy, mean, nasty, rude, demeaning, and he has really bad breath.
If he wants to discuss child support, he should, then he should commit his proposal to writing. Anything else is an attempt to get you face-to-face wherein he will attempt to manipulate you. Besides, any negotiations that are "spoken" are hear-say.
So be clear -- you do not want to meet face to face, and if he's serious about child support, give you a written proposal.
In addition, I'd tell him that you will not meet with him until such time as he pays all monies he owes.
I think that's quite fair and quite enough.
Good luck!