I'm Getting Divorced Tomorrow

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Registered: 12-14-2005
I'm Getting Divorced Tomorrow
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Sun, 03-16-2008 - 5:18pm

The Big Day has finally arrived - my divorce is going to be finalized at 9am tomorrow.

I have been up & down all weekend. Friday night I cried, Saturday morning I cried, Saturday night I was fine, today I've been better but now as the day draws to a close I'm a little sad and dreading court. I know it will be short & sweet and he doesn't even have to go, just me and my attorney, but still not looking forward to it. Is this normal?

I actually spoke to my STBX on the phone today. Nothing profound...just wanted to see if talking to him would make me feel any differently. It didn't. (The divorce was my decision.)

Am I just freaking out because of nerves? Will this pass in a few days after it is official? I have handled myself remarkably well over the past 5 months since we separated but it seems like I have dipped again this past week (emotionally). I know thought if I was to do something crazy like call him and ask him if we should try again...one last time...it would just be a reaction and I'd be mad at myself in a few days. These momentary periods of loneliness and sadness will pass, I know. On the whole I've been pretty happy and upbeat.

I'm going to the movies later with a friend. That should help. Then after the divorce I'm getting out of town for a few days. Just need to stay strong for a few more hours.....

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Sun, 03-16-2008 - 9:30pm

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Mon, 03-17-2008 - 12:04am
You sound pretty normal to me. I am glad for you since this is what you wanted. I wish my divorce was soon.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-17-2008 - 12:15am
That was good that you were able to share that experience. It will be helpful to many. I was drawn to the end where you said it was important to feel the emotions. That is so true. Its not good to keep it inside. I wonder all the time lately how I will do in court.
Right now I need to talk with stbx about our agreement. I am having a very hard time . I pick up the phone and then do nothing.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 03-17-2008 - 4:25pm
Hope it went smoothly.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 12-14-2005
Mon, 03-17-2008 - 9:26pm

Thanks to everyone who posted.

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Registered: 03-05-2008
Tue, 03-18-2008 - 3:09am

My divorce was final today.

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Registered: 10-09-2003
Tue, 03-18-2008 - 8:51am

That is pretty insensitive, isn't it?

Katy