I'm just so weepy ever since i found out

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Registered: 10-20-2004
I'm just so weepy ever since i found out
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Thu, 03-24-2005 - 4:25pm

that he has a girlfriend and that she was probably in the picture before he left. i'm miserable. when he left, early july, i was almost relieved. i never asked that he stay. i was done. he had been so rotten to me for over a year and it was really demeaning. probably emotional abuse. i was very upset for my two sons though. he's their father and while not the best, they loved him. so, he left. our first months without him were okay for me and i was able to be totally there for the kids. but now i'm wondering if i'm having a delayed reaction. i'm weepy and always on the verge of tears. it's new for the kids again too. they overheard him on the phone with the girlfriend and realized what was going on (they're 9 and 10) so he obviously wasn't giving any thought to sparing them. this was two weeks ago. again, we are having the divorce discussions and now girlfriend discussions and this is daily. i just don't know how much more i can take. i thought that this far into it, things would be better. this was an 11 yr marriage.

any insights?

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Registered: 02-23-2005
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 8:46am
i dont have any advice really beyond telling you that your feelings and reactions are definitely normal!
im sure just about everyone on here will tell you they have felt what you are feeling.
its not much help, but do keep in mind it WILL get better.
:)
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 8:57am

Karen, its normal to feel this way. Maybe your reaction is delayed b/c you thought that he wasnt really staying gone. But it sounds as if it IS the best thing for you & your kids. Hang in there. Have you had counseling? It can be SO helpful - has been a life saver for me.


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