I'm at my wit's end... please help!
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I'm at my wit's end... please help!
| Tue, 10-24-2006 - 2:10am |
I am so stressed out I am at a point where I don't know what to do! A little history... been married about 7 years, seperated last year for several months, reconciled, and now I decided I wanted out once and for all (our problems just came back). Been having a downhill trend for about the last 2 months. Sleeping in seperate rooms, not really home at the same time, etc. Told DH I was moving out about a week ago. The last time we seperated, he literally made my life a living hell. Threatened that if I didn't follow his "requirments" as far as living arrangements, child custody, etc that he would make me go broke. Well, even though he swore that he handled that wrong the last time, it looks as if he is setting it up to be the same. This morning he told me that I needed to find a place to live within like 5 miles of him for our kid's sake, ie so I am close for emergencies or whatever need be. He also told me that my job is not conducive to a custody schedule because sometimes my days off can change, but I work nights and 12 hour shifts so I am off 4 days a week, USUALLY the same days each week. So anyway, he said I needed to find a new job. HE then proceeded to tell me that I needed help and I had emotional problems, and after 2 hours of him basically telling me it was going to be his way because I "owed" him since I was the one who was breaking up the family, I finally broke down and started crying. He THEN does like a 180 degree turn and takes the opportunity when he knows I am at my lowest to start telling me that I should get counseling and figure out how to make our marriage work?!!! The rest of the day was spent with several messages about how I was making a huge mistake and how I was going to regret it, and any time I would speak about the seperation (ie moving out), he would start with the "I will talk about that when I feel like it." He gave me picture that my choices were to stay and he would be that nice person everyone thinks he is, or leave and if I don't live by his demands then my life will be miserable (he threatened to make me go broke if I went to a lawyer, and then laughed at me for it. You know, one of those eveil laughs) And now the holidays are coming up and I am so worried that my kids are going to be in the middle of all this nastiness, when all I want to do is be adults and figure out how to make it amicable at leat for their sake. I am just feeling so helpless and have no idea what I should do now! I know I need to go to a lawyer, but I don't have the $5000 retainer fee that most of them require. Please help!!

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