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I'm scared
| Tue, 03-15-2005 - 1:10pm |
My divorce was final in December. But since then I've been trying to maybe work things out with ex. We all spend time together as a famliy (we have a 20 month old son). But it's not taht frequently. We (son and I) live with my parents. He's currently living with his Mom in a tiny one bedroom apartment. We have joint legal custody. i have sole physical custody. He has visitation every Thursday night from 6-9 (although we do 8 since that's his bedtime). And every other Saturday and Sunday (no overnights yet), from 9-6. He recently started (yet another) new job. He'd only been unemployed 2 months this time (as oposed to almost 2 years last time). And this job at least right off the bat won't afford him weekends off (it's a landscapeing place). SO i agreed at least until he gets more seniority that he can have him a day (or two) on his day off during the week. Today i tell him that our son, my mom, and my two brothers (ages 18 and 21) will be going on vacation June 1-6. I do't know what possessed me to tell him this far out. I knew he'd be mad. But he's SUPER mad. He's already called the courts and set up a date for mediation so he can try to stop the vacation (at least stop our son from going with me). I don't know what legal rights I have. I don't know if I can have a lawyer present at this mediation, I don't know anything abotu this. I thought things were going to be be able to be handled reasonably, but I should ahve known better. He told me this afternoon when I dropped him off "You've hurt me for the last time, now it's time for you to hurt". I have no doubt that he will make s**t up if he has to to try to discredit me or make me look like a bad mother, who knows what the hell he will do. He has nothing to lose. I have everything to lose. He says he's going to make my son and I move out of my parents house (I have a self (by him) appointed deadline of July 1 to get out of the house) .. honetly right now it's just best for everyone that we are there. Then he says he's goign to get him out of there earlier than that. If they were to take him out of the house, where he hell would he go? no one in his family is capible of taking him in. So he'd go to foster care. And then he tells me that he'd be better off in foster care because I don't reall care about him. I just don't know what to do. My lawyer told me I should really consider NOT giving him joint-legal custody, but I did it anyhow. Stupid, stupid me.

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