I'm trying to understand this women

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Registered: 11-11-2006
I'm trying to understand this women
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Fri, 03-30-2007 - 10:50pm

The story is. She is 24 still legal married yet separated from her husband. She is quietly been dating a man 400 miles away for more than a year. She now is moving in a apartment with her legally married husband since her mother kicked her out of her house. They have filed for divorce but, haven't gone to trial and she is lazy about following up. She clams she has no choice to move in with him since none of her friends live on there own and she can't afford a place on her own. Also her legal husband will pay for her rent and utility's. Keep in mind her husband has verbally abused her and physical abused her. Why would this girl move in with her husband given this situation and that she has a kid and claims she doesn't' want to ever be with her husband again. Does she secretly love him? Or is she so desperate she has to do it. She isn't sharing a room with him and he isn't home much due to his work. And why would she be dating a man so far away? This question will help me answer one of my psychology problems for one of my classes. I just want to see what other people are think.
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Registered: 03-30-2007
Fri, 03-30-2007 - 11:32pm
Sounds like she is very dependant on him. Financially, emotionally, and is having a hard time letting go. When you're married you'll try anything to avoid divorce, sometimes. If she has been physically abused, she probably has self esteem issues. Verbal abuse is the hardest. You can't unring a bell. Once something is in you head, it's very hard to get it out. You can be told by a million people you are beautiful. But you will always hear, you're ugly, worthless.
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Registered: 10-25-2006
Sat, 03-31-2007 - 9:16pm

Tchin,


I would suggest you do some research into Domestic Violence and learn how some victims of this abuse respond to their situation. Look for a psychologist who specializes in treating vicitims of domestic violence and also talk with the director or manager of a women's shelter. I think you'll find a more complete picture of the person you are writing about.


Good luck with your project.

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