Insanity

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Registered: 09-20-2011
Insanity
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Wed, 02-29-2012 - 6:51pm

Hi all, I am new to this board, but I have been on ivillage for a while.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008
In reply to: bsbsker
Thu, 03-01-2012 - 7:59am

Hi bsbsker,

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: bsbsker
Thu, 03-01-2012 - 11:18am

If neither one of you can afford the house alone, you may have no other choice than to sell it, even if you are taking a loss--hopefully you can get enough to cover the mortgage, otherwise that would come w/ another set of problems.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-20-2011
In reply to: bsbsker
Thu, 03-01-2012 - 11:37am
Thanks guys, your thoughts make sense. To sell the house we would take a huge loss. I agree about counseling. I fully admit that it would be difficult to give up my friend. Sadly, he is the only one I have to talk to about this. I am all alone. My family sucks and i have not talked to them in years. Probably because of that i dont have many friends. He has truly become a friend to me and a shouder to lean on. PA is a no fault state. We def have unresolved issues, he thinks he is a great husband and father. He has been in some ways. But he has been horrible at the same time. He wants things sexually that i refuse( nothing at all freaky). I just wont do it because of resentment of past things. He is verbally abusive. He believes he takes good care of us then he has the right to say wjatever he wants. I emotionally shut myself off years ago.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-24-2005
In reply to: bsbsker
Tue, 03-06-2012 - 11:02am

Sounds like your mind is made up, as is his.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-20-2011
In reply to: bsbsker
Thu, 03-22-2012 - 1:47pm
Update. Husband and I agreed to divirce. We have been very friendly since, until this past saturday. Twobweeks ago, he moved in with a former students family, a om and her 3 kids.this student was a surrogate daughter to him and thuse me. She spent holidays in my home. Saturday, i find out my soon to be exhusband who i did want a divorce from is now sleeping in the mothers bed and they are a couple. He said she makes him feel like a king and in the 2 weeks he was there he developed feelings for her. I am deeply hurt by him choosing her. He has never said a positive thing about her in the 6 years hes played daddy to her daughter. I feel berrayed and its literraly making me sick. I dont want hom back but his choice is making our amiamacable divorce NASTY. i can not be his friend ever again. I know i have nerve for feeling this way but i do....he does not underatand why i am uoset that its her, i told him just about anyone else but her.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: bsbsker
Thu, 03-22-2012 - 4:13pm

Considering the circumstances, he probably "picked" this woman because she was there & available.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-20-2011
In reply to: bsbsker
Thu, 03-22-2012 - 4:42pm
Musiclover, i ageee. Two things, he wants us to be friends, best friends. I like him soo much better as not my H. I feel really betrayed by his choice in this woman. He has said its bcause she was there, he said he has feelings for her that developed in two weeks....
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: bsbsker
Thu, 03-22-2012 - 8:32pm

How serious do you think people could be in 2 weeks?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-11-2012
In reply to: bsbsker
Thu, 03-22-2012 - 10:49pm

your stbxh wanting you and him to be best friends is bs. I agree with the poster above: his serious relationship with this woman will burn out soon enough. jumping from a marriage to some else that quick often does not work.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-20-2011
In reply to: bsbsker
Thu, 03-22-2012 - 10:54pm
Thanks, i bought into the fantasy of being friends. Im not upset about his relationship, just his choice in woman.

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