An interesting week ahead....

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Registered: 03-31-2008
An interesting week ahead....
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Sat, 04-26-2008 - 10:27am

My husband has

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Registered: 12-19-2001
Sat, 04-26-2008 - 1:38pm

Dropper,


For your kids sakes I hope that he doesn't come back only to leave again.

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Registered: 03-30-2008
Sat, 04-26-2008 - 2:15pm

Hi, I hope things work out well, but I agree with Buckeye--talk ahead of time and know what the expectations are. Why is he waiting until next weekend? Why not now?


GL!! It will probably be a ton of hard work on both your parts...I hope things start to smooth out for you and the kids!! Keep us posted :)

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Sat, 04-26-2008 - 3:07pm

Dropper,


I would INSIST on going to marriage counseling together if he wants to reconcile. It's imparative to your marriage and each of you individually for there to be a professional involved. You both have issues. You both need help sorting those out and bringing your baggage out in the open. If he refuses to go, then I would say "no" to any reunion. It will only repeat itself, especially if he thinks he can just up and leave again.


Did he leave for another woman? IF so, my guess is his sudden desire to return home has more to do with being dumped by the girlfriend than wanting to return to his marriage. (You're "a sure bet" as far as he's concerned since you wanted him to return to the maritial home.). Trouble is, as soon as the GF crooks her finger or he finds another one, he'll be gone again like a shot.


Again, marriage counseling. Its essential to your life together no matter what.


Good luck,


CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Registered: 03-31-2008
Sat, 04-26-2008 - 3:24pm

we have agreed to counselling -- individual and marriage.


He didn't leave because of another woman -- his issue is depression.....which feel much like an OW at times.