introduction

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Registered: 04-19-2006
introduction
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Wed, 02-14-2007 - 10:54am

Hello all,

I just wanted to introduce myself. I'm looking for a place to find a little support. I've been married for a little over ten years and have two wonderful children we adopted a little over five years ago (they are both 6 yrs. old).

Three and a half weeks ago, my husband came home and announced he had fallen in love with someone from the office and wanted a divorce. This came completely out of the blue, we weren't having any problems that I was aware of. We had moved half way across the country for his job six months earlier - he had moved four months ahead of me and the kids so they could finish the school year. The transition had been tough but I thought things were getting better. He tells me now he's been unhappy for sometime but never said anything. He thought the move would make things better.

So the kids and I headed back home to where family and friends are. He's started proceedings already. He hasn't given me money or anything from the house except the weekend's worth of clothes the kids and I left with. My lawyers are working to get a quick resolution on temporary support and getting some of the property but we're living in limbo in the mean time. Luckily, I have family to help or I'd be totally lost.

I still can't believe this is happening.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2007
In reply to: yayafan
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 8:53pm

I am so sorry. It is a horrible thing I am going through it now myself. My husband has left me and closed the bank account etc. Neither one of us are living in our house right now, it is so hard to look at his stuff all the time. I am waiting for him to move his stuff out so me and my babies can go home(10, 7,3) I deep down knew that my husband was unhappy but I really believed that he would get over it and we would be fine. I still love him but I feel a little more at peace about everything now. I am lucky that he is going to give me the house so the kids arent uprooted and is going to pay me a fair amount of child support and alimony, I guess if you want out bad enough you will do whatever it takes. I am not sure if mine has a girlfriend or not but why else would you leave your wife who loves you and your kids?

Oh well keep coming back and it helps so much reading what other people write about and that you are not alone.

Good luck

Mary

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2006
In reply to: yayafan
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 11:32pm

Thanks, Mary. It helps to know I'm not alone.

We'll get through this and be stronger women for it!

Maggie

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-2006
In reply to: yayafan
Thu, 02-15-2007 - 9:15am

Good for you getting back home with the kids. Glad he isn't fighting that (yet). Glad you have good lawyers going after support.

Gosh, when this happens, it is just so unreal. I told a friend I felt like I was living in cloud-cuckoo-land.

My marriage had issues, but for my stbx to walk out on all we have ... well, for me, it is a done deal--he isn't changing his mind. Now my focus it to do everything to take care of the kids (5 and 6 1/2) and me. We have a painful journey yet to travel re mediation/financial and visitation.

Keep taking care of yourself and your children. You are strong!

This is a very supportive board, so stick around.

M