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Is it appropriate?
| Thu, 05-26-2005 - 4:56pm |
Hi guys,
Another question............
Recently, I found out that my mother and OW are friends. It seems that all 3 of them have gone to dinner a few times and have regular contact. This was all done behind my back and in HUGE secrecy.
Does anyone find anything wrong with this?
I would love some other opinions on this, I seem to think it is inappropriate, sort of a slap in the face.
Thanks for all your advice in advance :)


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I would have to agree. I know my SO has a problem with this. He was never married to his ex but they were together for 10 yrs. They have 2 kids and his father took the side of his ex. It was an amicable break up and at the time he had a back injury and couldn't even walk. His dad kept asking him if he needed help and when he would say yes no response. His ex takes the kids to his dads all the time. They have a 50/50 custody arrangment. His dad buys his ex stuff, gave her a kitchen table set,bedroom furniture for the kids,gave her a computer. The wonders why his son wants nothing to do with him.
It is a very difficult situation.His dad has pushed almost all of his kids away.Now it seems as though he is adopting SO's ex for the daughter he never had(sort of) He has a duaghter that wants nothing to do with him.
Maybe your mom is doing the same thing. You said you haven't had a good relationship and maybe she is trying to substitute OW for you in a sense. If OW is anything like my SO's ex then she is capable of a good but kissing. You knoe smile give all kinds of attention and just appear absolutely perrfect.I hope this all makes sense.
K:)
yep it does and that is 100% my thought on the subject.
I do think in a way OW is trying to be me, in that aspect. Maybe not me physically, but otherwise.... does that make sense?
I just think it is inappropriate.... Nothing I can do about it.... but I wanted to get the opinions of you wonderful ladies ( and men ) :)
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Other woman :)
My mother put it to me that she needed people that care in her life.
Ok, I can see that, but does it HAVE to be OW? For the kids sake only do I see her going over my head to see the kids ( she thinks I don't want her in my house which isn't true ) maybe making a call to XH to see the kids... but I found out that they spent mother's day together. ( or atleast a dinner part of it anyway )
That's just plain weird!
no no I agree!
Yes she is my mom and she seens NOTHING wrong with it.
She is sick, says she needs people around her who care.... What about HER DAUGHTER? GRANDKIDS? HER INLAWS????? it doesn't HAVE to be OW and XH.
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