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| Tue, 06-07-2005 - 11:38am |
My ex is ridiculous. He called yesterday evening around 6:15 asking if he could come see the baby, he's downstairs in my lobby. On Sunday he couldnt come over to spend some quality time with him b/c he claims when he got there he would have to leave right away b/c he didnt want to travel that late. It's a 2 1/2 hr commute from his house to mine. He could have spent about 4 hrs with him on sunday but no he couldnt do that but he comes over monday evening at 6:15 and leaves at 8:30p.m It makes no sense.
Look I know things between my ex and me are over. I know he's moved on and has a gf. Now get this, his preschooler gf now wants him to "address her properly" when he's at my house. She called and he answers his phone: hi baby. He says that she feels when he's at my house and she calls he acts as she is one of his male friends.
To me for him to do this it's just throwing things in my face and its not nice. I know he has a gf. Why does he have to flaunt it. He claims he cares for me and will always love me. If this is true and he knows im still trying to get over the whole thing between us, why would do this knowing it upsets me. He cheated. Shouldnt he want to make the transition as easy as possible, he ruined our family not me. Why want to continually hurt me. I dont do this to him. Would never do this to him. A real man would do that right.
I mean how childish and insecure is this girl. She must not trust him at all to want him to do this all the time he's at my house.
He says all he can offer me if Friendship right now. If that's true, friends do hurt each other, they care for and respect each other. What hurts the most is she's only been in his life for a few months and he acts like she gave him his 1st born son. Like she was with him for over 5 yrs. like she cooked, cleaned and did everything for him and im just somebody he met and didnt have anything serious with. It makes me feel so worthless. Like I was never special and this girl is everything.
WHY do they do this?

They do it because they can.
Yes that girl is insecure. You are his WIFE, she is dating a MARRIED man. Regardles of how much you say that you don't want him and he can say the same thing towards you, because of your history, there is ALWAYS a chance in her mind that he will come back to you.
hey angelena,
We were never legally married. Although all that was missing was the license. Anyway as always thank you for your advice. Maybe its jealously on my part. Feeling she has gotten a "better him" then I had. I deserved to have this "changed man" he claims he is now. It's like there was something wrong with me that he couldnt give me the "faithfulness" that he claims he's given her now. It makes me sick. But then I tell myself im just torturing myself b/c he hasnt "really" changed b/c just last monday he was laying in my bed with me watching t.v.
I have some real Low Self-Esteem issues that I have to deal with seriously
That's right, I forgot you guys weren't married.... but still sometimes you don't need the legality to know where you stand, ya know?
Anyone in our situation goes through low self esteem. As long as you don't let it consume you... you will be ok :)
Hugs hon,hang in there.
Hugs and kisses
"He says all he can offer me if Friendship right now. If that's true, friends do hurt each other, they care for and respect each other. What hurts the most is she's only been in his life for a few months and he acts like she gave him his 1st born son. Like she was with him for over 5 yrs. like she cooked, cleaned and did everything for him and im just somebody he met and didnt have anything serious with. It makes me feel so worthless. Like I was never special and this girl is everything."
I am a lurker here but I could really feel your pain and want to remind you that once upon a time, he probably treated you the same way. People always present their best selves at the beginning of a relationship but eventually his true colors will find their way out. Do not let ANY man make you feel worthless.
My (stb)ex's (ex) gf lives directly across the street from me. She knew when he was here and would get extremely jealous, calling his cell, threatening me, even trying to get him to talk dirty to her while he was here seeing his kids, and I'm thinking, he's actually MY husband!! What right does she have to be jealous!! He brok up with her but she became a stalker, calling him constantly, making up stories about me, our kids (3 ages 12, 9 and 5) etc. At this point all I can do is laugh, because they both totally deserve what they got. She got dumped and he got stalked! I got my house and sole custody of our awesome kids.
Keep your chin up, it will get better!
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Karen ~ wildlucky4me
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