is it me?
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| Wed, 12-19-2007 - 10:28am |
This is my first message board ever.I just don't know where else to turn for advice. I've read some of the posts, and people seem honest and helpful to each other. More than anything right now, I'm frightened. I've been this way ever since I realized that I want to divorce my husband. We've been together for 25 years.
We've always had certain issues, but they've never resolved or improved although I have made an attempt almost every year of my marriage. Now I realize our issues will always be there. Things aren't going to change. My children are young adults, though I have a teenage boy at home still. My husband has always supported us financially. But he is emotionless. He has no empathy, no genuine feeling for those in need. He has never been there for me when I really needed him. ex.( I was hospitalized with bacterial pneumonia, my organs were shutting down. the Dr. had just told me if the antibiotics didn't work quick enough I could die. My husband leans over and says to the Dr. "Well, I have a business trip the day after tomorrow I can't get out of." Dr. just looked at him and said we will know in 24hours. When I "came to" he was gone. He left me and my three young kids. They were terrified. when he came back, he went straight back to work. I had to call a friend for a ride when they discharged me. When I later called him on it, and told him how much he had hurt and embarrassed me, he said i should be happy he had medical insurance to pay my bill.) This is one example. I just feel the accumulation of instances has finally become too much for me. He is perfectly happy with the way things are. Should i feel guilty for wanting to divorce?

Wow, I do feel your pain. I think I'm married to his twin. Both times I was in
the answer to your first question and your last question:
NO.
it is not you, and NO you shouldn't feel guilty about thinking about a divorce.
this may be a futile question, but have you tried counseling, either couple's or single?
*hugs*
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