It is sad...

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Registered: 12-29-2004
It is sad...
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Fri, 05-06-2005 - 9:43pm

when a family member jumps on these boards and chases a great woman and her advice away! I don't know about you, but I am extremely sad that we are losing someone like Angelena because of a family disagreement.

I read her Mom's post and the reality is "shame on her" for coming and disrupting these boards for the rest of us. I will miss Angelena terribly!

Melanie

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Registered: 06-06-2003
In reply to: gehring1960
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 7:12am
I totally agree with you. These boards are for healing and helping others heal. To take that opportunity away from someone is just not right. I could never imagine doing something like this to my daughter in a million years. Trying to make it alone with three little ones is hard enough. To actually take some of that precious time out of your life to help others, shows that you are one awesome woman Angelena. Don't let your mom affect your decision to quit the board. We've had unwelcomed visitors to other boards and it was taken care of...so alas it can be done again.
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Registered: 03-06-2005
In reply to: gehring1960
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 12:12pm

Melanie,


Thank you so very much for your awesome words. I am so gratful to have been able to be apart of this board for as long as I have been. I think that given all of my own personal "demons" ( family, XH and OW ) It helped me greatly to be able to help anyone I could on this board.


You guys are all a bunch of strong, intelligent, wonderful and supportive

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Registered: 03-06-2005
In reply to: gehring1960
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 12:17pm

Thank you so much for your kind words.


I am so glad that I was able to help the people I have helped. It is why I signed up to be a CL. It helped me to help others.


I will be back. I am not sure how, but I will be.


Hugs to you and thank you so much for posting.


Angelena

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: gehring1960
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 1:09pm
I am sorry to hear someone causing a problem for a member. These boards can be so helpful. I have not read the specifics. I only check in occ these days but want to be here today and am so glad for the opportunity.
If it was an invasion of privacy, I can relate. My Stbx once opened all my mailbox and wiped it out. It was either he or OW. They called the int provider at the time and got in with providing personal info. We had not been living together for 2 years.
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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: gehring1960
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 1:32pm
I dont know what happened, but i want to say that you have every right to stay here - you have been a wonderful help & you need support as well. HUGS

R~

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In reply to: gehring1960
Sat, 05-07-2005 - 2:56pm
I think if we taunt the mom and the OW, they have even more of a reason to stick around and defend themselves. They can be asked to leave, but they can make up a new username and post anytime they want, and even if their posts violate the TOS and are removed, it is still very disruptive to the board. Of course we will miss having Angelena as our CL, and the whole situation is incredibly unfortunate for her and for us. But even if they hadn't posted to her, they would be here lurking and reading her posts since they did learn of the site, and that is unimaginable to me. I would not keep posting if I was her, at least not to get support or if it involved anything to do with her mom and the OW. We can all say anything we want here because it is anonymous and we don't have to hold back anything. That has changed for Angelena and nothing we say can erase the knowledge of this site from her mom and OW's mind. Yes, it is very very sad.

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