is it time

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Registered: 04-10-2005
is it time
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Mon, 04-11-2005 - 9:57am
How do you know if it is time to get a divorce or even to separte for a while. how can i make up my mind as what to do. things are bad at times but then there are those times when everthing is perfect for a while what should i do and how do i decide.
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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: roses2180
Mon, 04-11-2005 - 10:02am

If you aren't sure, then it might not be time. Have you tried marriage counseling? What are the things that make you think it could be saved? What are the things that make you think it's over?

I know divorce was the right answer for me, but it took a while to understand how that would happen and feel confident in my decision. One of the first things I did was talk to my mother, so I could know that I had her support. Telling him was one of the hardest things, but by the time I told him there was no doubt in my mind.

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Registered: 03-06-2005
In reply to: roses2180
Mon, 04-11-2005 - 10:06am

I think that once you can look at yourself and be ok with you having tried everything to help the marriage and you still feel like it's time, you should separate.


Don't give up too easily. I think that once you know, you just know. I do sense some doubt in your post and maybe it's not time for you. A lot of times we take our own depressions and misconceive that as being a relationship problem. If you are not happy with you then you cannot be happy with someone else.


I hope this helps. Good luck!