Is it a way of throwing me out????

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Registered: 12-14-2004
Is it a way of throwing me out????
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Thu, 03-24-2005 - 6:45am

sorry for bugging you once again.the day i caught my hubby with that girl since then he has been telling me to leave him for twenty days first and then we will sort it out.to which i disagreed.after few days i picked up a job to pass my time.my hubby didnt want me to work and kept telling me to quit my job.i said no and continued working.i made couple of pals and after some days me and my friends went to a party.i didnt notice the time and got late.he called up and shouted on phone that if i want to stay with him,i have to follow his rules.
one day i decided to quit my job and leave him for twenty days.when i told him about this he said no need now and i should leave him forever.i told him if he wants a divorce he should move his ass and not irritate me.without notifying me he sent a courier to my parents saying that they should come and take their daughter and if no action is taken he will move out of the house on such and such date.your daughter will be alone in the house and i will not be responsible for it.he sent one email to his parents.the day his parents got the mail called up my parents to fix a meeting.his parents have told mine that their son has agreed to reconsile.
my hubby is telling me now that he has decided to reconsile as his parents have told him to,he is very happy,started talking to me a bit but all his conversations are leading to bad talk about me and my family.

i am going with him and staying with his parents,got to and fro tickets.am on his visa.my question is should i agree to him and go and sort it out with his parents and my family or should i tell him dat am not going with him and he can pack his clothes and move out?
he is focussing on bad things so how should i tell him if he wants to sort out then we need to find solution and not complaining.
he does not touch me and theres no sex for three months.
thanks in advance.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 03-24-2005 - 9:39am

Well, I'm not completely sure about your whole situation.... it sounds like you two being together also means that one of you gets to stay in a country????


I think that you really need to talk to an attorney to figure out exactly what the legalities are about that first... and that you have to decide if the emotional turmoil is worth it.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~