It's been 1 week and 1 day..

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Registered: 12-11-2003
It's been 1 week and 1 day..
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Wed, 08-17-2005 - 10:19am

Well ladies, it has been one week and one day since my move and our total seperation. He has called the past 2-nights to gripe at me saying I'm the whore and blaming it on me. As we know he has had a girlfriend for over a month prior to our seperation. It's killing him that I'm not calling and crying to him, he has told my friends she hasn't even called me, well that's what he wanted so that's what he got. He is threating every guy who he hears is around me, and it's getting pretty crazy. I don't understand why he even cares he has flaunted her around in front of other people. No one can believe he chose her over me she is pretty bad.
As far as me I'm doing pretty good. I do have good days and bad but over all I am proud of myself. I'll tell ya when it rains it poors, my grandmother is very sick and is in the hospital, my car is tearing up again and it's just non-stop action. I will have to say I have not took the time to set down and think about him or I would have a hard time with it. I'm trying to stay busy to keep my mind off of things to make it easier. I keep reminding myself of her and it eases the pain, to know he had a gf before we even started having problems. I have been on one date that was Sat. night we went to our county fair, nothing big but it was fun. I've had several offers to dinner but I haven't excepted any yet, I'm sure I will but I need a little time first.
I have lost about 5lbs this week, doing pretty good there too. I just can't eat hardly anything. I try but then I get so sick to my stomach. I've been drinking alot of water too. All in all, today that is, I feel confident about the whole thing. I hope to find a loving man that wants kids too, and knows what marriage is all about. He age would be no concern to me, as long as he is a strong faithful man. I hope everyone else is having a good day as well. Check in and post how your doing today and how you've been doing so far.

Stacy

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 08-17-2005 - 5:18pm

Good for you Stacy!! It sounds like you are a real trooper!!! I know how hard it is. 6 months ago I was in your place, and its so much better now. And yes you will find a good man who will treat you like a princess and be everything you ever wanted in a man. I have been fortunate and found a loving man who treats me wonderfully and he wants kids one day as do I. (My ex didn't).
Good luck to you!

((hugs))
Jess

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Registered: 12-11-2003
Thu, 08-18-2005 - 10:05am

Hey it only took 6-months. That's good, I hope I can be on my feet and meet a guy in 6-months. My ex didn't want kids either I think that's why he done what he did, but oh well. I very surprised he didn't call last night, I'm so glad he didn't, he thinks I should be crying and calling him or harassing his whore, but no thanks she done me a favor I thank her for that.
I do hope to go out with a guy this weekend again. I really like this guy and I've always felt connected to him even when I was with my soon to be ex. He always helped me out and was always there for me, now he seems to be afraid to come around, or maybe he is just giving me my space to get over this. I honestly don't think it will take long to get over this, he has just pushed me away for about 2yrs now, and we both saw this coming along time ago. I think he will have a harder time with it than me, he never thought I would actually leave, he figured I would stick around and be the good little wife like I portrayed to be and I proved them all wrong. I feel good about it, at least today, I'm sure there be bad days but I can handle it. Good luck with your man, thanks for your reply.

Stacy

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 08-18-2005 - 9:42pm

I'm glad that you're trying to at least keep water down.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~