It's been forever... let's roll call...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
It's been forever... let's roll call...
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Thu, 01-05-2006 - 11:00pm

Post your name and location... children... (only if you feel comfortable doing so)... where you are in the separation or divorce process... and anything else you want to share with us...

(Karen, I hope you don't mind me doing this... we just seem to have a bunch of new faces around here lately and I'd love to get to "meet" people... :) )

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Registered: 03-19-2003

Hi Melissa..... I'm so sorry that you find yourself here.... but so glad that you found us.


Gosh, my EX was controlling, too.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 09-02-2004

I'm Cathy, divorced since 02 after 19 year marriage, 4 kids, one in college, two in HS and a grade schooler. We live in Houston, I'm an accountant, we have two cats and YDD is begging for another pet, a gerbil or hamster. I've tried to tell her how rodents and felines do not peacefully co-exist, but to no avail.... I'm suggesting goldfish and YDD is not happy with that compromise--you can't pet a goldfish, she says.

I really, really appreciate reading from all of you who have lived this experience. Reading about what worked, what didn't and getting feedback that validates my emotions and helps me understand what's happening has been more valuable to me than any psychotherapist session--and it's free.

Thanks, everybody!

cupcake

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Registered: 03-19-2003

"getting feedback that validates my emotions and helps me understand what's happening has been more valuable to me than any psychotherapist session--and it's free."


AMEN!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 09-01-2005

Hi Everyone, My name is Belinda and I live in Colorado. My son is 16 and my daughter is 12.

Divorce papers were filed last July and I'm hoping for an end by this summer. With the holidays now over, I am hoping we can deal with the disposition of the house (either we sell or he buys me out). We have a temporary parenting schedule for the kids, but the house will be the biggie. I moved out of the house and into an apartment September 1st. It feels weird living in an apartment after not living in one since I was 24, but it is peaceful there with no one lecturing me or yelling at me. Now if he starts on a tirade I can hang up the phone. I think eventually my children will want to live with me because they no longer have me as a buffer when they are with him, and he is a tough, tough cookie.

On a lighter note, I started dating a great fellow that is fun to go out with. We enjoy dinners and movies and hope to start doing other things. We have decided not to get serious, but to enjoy one another's company!

Let's hope that 2006 will be an awesome year for all of us! Hugs, Belinda

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Registered: 03-26-2003

Steph

ds 25yo, dd 23yo, ds 21yo, dd 19yo, ds 17yo, dgd 3yo, dgd 18 months old, dgd 2 months old

Divorced 7/31/98

Remarried 10/9/99

DH had an EA. Trying to rebuild. Not sure we will make it.

Steph


"In the first place, God made idiots. That was for practice. Then he made school boards."


-Mark Twain


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Registered: 01-02-2006

Jennifer - age 29 - Southern Maine - College grad - HR Professional
I was married to my HS sweetheart - we dated for 9 years, married for 3 years to the day! We married on 8-3-02 and divorced 8-3-05. He cheated on me for quite a while before i finally saw what I had been avoding! the past few years have beeN HELL. I am glad that I have been able to start packing up and putting away my emotinal baggage. Here's to 2006!

I went to couselling - she told me I was a well adjusted, insightful, good person who needed to move on. That it was my ex who needed therapy. I finally believe her! I am now trying to forgive him and myself, so I can feel like I have completely moved on- which I know takes time. I still gets pains of heartache, but I am so much better. I actually like myself more than before. I try to think that my divorce has given me a chance to move on and really find a great partner for my future. I like being by myself now.

I do not have any kids - he did leave me the 3 kittens. I must say I am truly impressed with all of you who go through all of the pain and hurt and confusion and are still functioning parents. I want you all to know how PROUD i am of you! I can only imagine how much harder my experience would have been,

I am still healing and learning. It does get better - ONWARD-Jenn

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Registered: 01-11-2006
My name is Amber 30. I live in Texas for now. We will be moving to Oklahoma when we can find an apartment. I have 4 kids: Cheyenne 9, Dylan 7, Cassidy 5 and Alissa 3. We are not yet seperated. I will be meeting with an attorney to start the divorce proceeding in the next week or two hopefully.

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