It's the DIVORCE!
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| Fri, 04-14-2006 - 8:57am |
OK, any time anything negative happens with DS, STBX says, "It's the DIVORCE!!!" He gets a bad grade? The divorce. He talks back? The divorce. He gets into an argument with a friend? The divorce. Now, of course I realize that the divorce has had a significant impact on him, as it does with most children. But I think it's wrong to attribute every problem he has or ever had to it. Some of it is the fact that he's 11 and hitting pre-teen mode.
Last marking period, DS got his worst report card ever. He's normally an excellent student. Compared to a lot of other kids's report cards, I know it was still pretty good, but it wasn't typical for him. So he went back to counseling, and I gave him extra support. And you know what? This time he got all As and a B. I'm very proud of him for working so hard. He did have a few glitches behaviorally, but that's been pretty typical for him all along.
Maybe I should tell STBX he got such a good report card because of the divorce!

What lies behind us and lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Ah, the alternative is my XH who says that Rosie "should be over the divorce by now, after all, she's 11 and we separated almost 5 years ago." What an idiot. Of course, this is the man who thinks that SHE is the one who needs to make their relationship better, much like he wanted me to go to therapy alone, fall back in love with him, and come back to him while he sat around and did nothing. He and NW actually said that Rosie would be over the divorce if I were. If I were? WTF? I've been over the divorce since about 3 minutes after I found out it was final! What I'm not over is his continual emotional neglect of his daughters!
Perhaps Rosie would be over the divorce if he hadn't started dating NW *with* them every single weekend before our divorce was final and if he hadn't gotten married 6 months after the divorce was final and 5 days after Rosie told him that she just wasn't ready for him to remarry, that it was too soon.
I've said it before and I'll say it again.... selfish selfish selfish.
Sorry for my own rant....... It's too bad that whatever side of the coin these idiots are on, they end up not being able to see theforest for the trees.
~calla~ mom to rosie and gracie
That's what I would tell him!!!!!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~