It's getting difficult for me...

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It's getting difficult for me...
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Fri, 04-11-2008 - 1:09pm

On sunday i got into a huge fight with my husband and ended up calling the cops b/c he's told me before if I ever leave him I leave w/o our 6 mth old daughter (also have a 4yr old from previous relationship), anyway at first he took my cell and we don't have an apt phone...we wrestled for it, after he finally gave it to me...i was going to sleep in my son's room that night, but he came in and pulled my daughter from me, (i let go when she began to cry), i called the cops fearing he take off and i'd never see her again, i followed him, as he's getting his keys i stood by the door so he wouldn't leave, the whole time he's telling me that she doesn't need me, that he has somebody to watch her while he works, that he can do it on his own, that he'll move and get another job if he has to, etc, well the cops finally came and told him to give her to me (since she's so small and i'm still breastfeeding)...they told me to pack up and leave and they did a report, my parents came for us.

 

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Registered: 03-24-2008
Fri, 04-11-2008 - 10:24pm

I'm sorry to here the relationship has become abusive.

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Mon, 04-14-2008 - 2:05pm

Because you long for that make-up feeling. There is something inside you that needs it. Here's the thing: the abuse will escalate. How long will that make-up feeling continue to make up for the abuse? I'd say you are about there.


There are healthy relationships that give you that make up feeling all the time. You don't have to go through the abuse to get it. Those are the relationships you should be seeking. In the meantime, you have work to do on yourself. This is at least your second failed relationship (since you have a 4 yo by another man). Why do you choose these sorts of men? You are the common denominator here. You owe it to yourself and your children to figure this out about yourself and address it. You deserve to have a happy, loving and stable relationship, and your children deserve to grow up living in that kind of home.


Best of luck to you and your children.

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Mon, 04-14-2008 - 4:28pm
I would suggest finding a counselor that specializes in abuse and get in touch with a women's group.