It's Getting Worse

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Registered: 06-11-2004
It's Getting Worse
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Wed, 08-02-2006 - 2:07pm

Jesus, this man just doesnt stop. The incident started over the weekend with ex trying to pressure me to cancel the c.s. arrears again and then keeping ds clothes to punish me. Saturday evening ds started to get a rash, by Sunday it was getting worse, Monday after school it was bad, my sister gave the benadryl and itch cream. That evening I called ex and told him what was going on, and said it may not be a good idea to take him to the beach, he might be allergic to the sand, I have to take him to the dr, he starts telling me oh please, dont tell me nothing, yelling saying he knows what he's doing and I said look he's gonna have to go to the dr are you gonna take him and he just hung up. Well there was my answer. I was pissed but I didnt call him back.

Later that evening he called, I didnt answer, he called again I wasnt going to answer. Then that night he left a message asking what time I was taking him to the dr, I didnt call back. For what. When I tried to have a conversation with him he hung up on me.

Tuesday morning he called again, I ignored the call. I had to take the day off from work to take ds to the dr. My sister said I better be prepared for him to show up at the dr's and make a scene which is how he is since he's been mad about me not cancelling the arrears so my mom was like it's a shame you cant take him to a different dr. Then it hit me to instead of his pediatrician take him to his allery dr which is at a difference location. YES! That's what I did. Dont you know he showed up. My intercom is set to my cell phone. About 2 minutes after we left the house my intercom rang. I went out the back entrance to my building and Im glad I did. He left a message, his attitude, whew nasty as usual. Talking about where am I and for all he knows I could be dead by the side of the road, Im not answering my phone etc, he came to brooklyn to bring ds his cars and Im not around. Can you believe him. He refused to bring the ds toys when I told him ds was asking for them but he all of a sudden came tuesday to bring them. Saying I got these damn cars with me and Im not coming back to brooklyn for two weeks so oh well. Call him he wants to know how ds is. He went to his school, my job and his clinic. What a jerk. He's acting real psycho now.

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Registered: 12-16-2004
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 4:35pm
Yes, he is a psycho. He has proven this over time. However, I do think you owe it to him to let him know what's going on health wise with your son. Just say to him. I'm taking him to doc x at x time if you want to be there great -- if you can't, i'll let you know what they said. If you keep him informed, he can't come back and say "well son was sick, and she didn't even tell me"
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Registered: 06-11-2004
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 5:19pm

That's the thing I did try to tell him. The was the sole purpose of calling him the day before but he yelled at me then hung up on me. The next day I had too much on my plate to deal with more of his arguments. Once I was in and ds was settled I called him, blocked my number because I knew that way he wouldnt answer the phone and left him a message of the status. He called me a bit later and I just answered. Now I left him the message saying how he was, he calls and asks how he is (he didnt care about that the day before) but whatever. I told him. I also told him next time he should listen when Im trying to discuss ds instead of hanging up on me, because the ONLY thing we have to discuss is ds, nothing more. I then said goodbye and hung up. HE CALLS BACK! This time he says what did the dr say. Is he stupid or just really off his rocker totally, I had told him before we have to use sun-screen on ds, its a must especially if he's going to the beach with his allergies, so I told him again. When I was done again I said goodbye and hung up. Are you ready for this one, he called back AGAIN. I didnt answer. Enought is enough. Finally that was the end of it.

I just dont get it.