It's me again.....

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-13-2006
It's me again.....
2
Thu, 06-23-2011 - 10:02am

I can't ever picture myself without my husband being my husband. I just can't see myself with anyone else. I know I am

Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
Thu, 06-23-2011 - 10:12am

Just,

You're right, you're getting way a head of yourself. In the process you're creating more anxiety and more fears about something that hasn't even occured yet.

Get busy and get the assistance you need to help youself legally and emotionally. Creating anxiety about things that haven't happened you is only going to paralyze you. Move!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-10-2010
Thu, 06-23-2011 - 10:22am

You have been married to this man for 23 years, it is completely normal to have these feelings. I was only married for 6 years (together for 3 before that) and I felt that at first too. I am just now starting to think I may be ready to date and while the idea of dating scares the crapolla out of me, I no longer feel like I can't move on and be happy. Through therapy I took the time to learn I am the only one who can make happy and fulfilled in my life and that I shouldn't even begin to think about dating until I got there. I feel happy most of the time on my own and with my little girl, I know that while a man can add to my happiness the core of it must come from me. You will get there, you are in the hardest part of all of this right now. I urge you to do something for yourself and take a few minutes away from all the thoughts flying around in your head. Get a manicure and/or pedicure, a massage, join a gym or start working out, have a girls night with a couple of friends, just something to make you feel better about yourself. You can't do anything about the way your husband thinks or feels you need to work on you!! Please continue with therapy, my therapist helped me so much to look at myself and the things that I came to realize I needed to work on for me and think about where I wanted to be and how to get there. Thinking of you, GL!!