it's not over until is over...
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it's not over until is over...
| Mon, 11-12-2007 - 8:20pm |
Well, thanks again to those of you who have been following my story. On 10/28 my H agreed to try things and break up with OW like I requested-- according to him he is doing it because of DS who is 7. I was skeptical but I was willing to give it a try; I needed to be able to say "I tried" although I have questioned my motives lately. Why am I so into this man? It's sort of like an addiction I have concluded, and addictions are unhealthy. Just to make a very long story short, he broke up with her (had break up sex with her that same night just two days after we decided to try things), but aside from having a couple of family outings in which I basically walked 20 feet behind my DS and him, we haven't spent any time together. He is not allowing us to spend anytime alone! We have time, financial resources, baby sitters, support , family! After a week or so, I confronted him and he told me that it is all

If he only agreed to work things out
Thank you Lili
That's exactly what's happening. He wants to keep his options open. Bot OW and I are sick of that...He's not a bad person, but someone who has a difficult time being less self centered... We will talk again tomorrow as per his request. I hate the fact that I didn't file yet. I wanted to go in to this conversation saying " here it is buddy, sign it and adios or don't and let's work it out"... I will keep you posted...
Marta
Good luck. Just make sure that whatever you decide to do you are doing it for your best interest not because it's what he wants or because of competition and jealousy. I hope things work out the way YOU want them to. You shouldn't have to share the man you love with anyone.
Keep us posted
Sounds like you need to stop worrying about what his next move is going to be and start regaining your strength and confidence back. Stop letting him call the shots. You can't force something that isn't there so you need to move on for your