It's a small world...

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It's a small world...
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Thu, 07-28-2005 - 8:58am

I went out for dinner last night with visiting family to a place I haven't gone to in years. I'm waiting for the rest of our party to arrive when out of the corner of my eye about 6 feet away I see a couple holding hands headed straight for me. So after months of worrying about seeing ex and OW at my friend's wedding, I end up running into them accidentally. (And how does this happen when I live in a city of 300,000 or so and they live 45 minutes outside the city? Guess it really is a small world.) So I have a quick thought of "oh, crap why do they have to be here?" and realize that there's no way to gracefully duck away since they're so close and they're just seeing me as I see them, so I just think "oh, well" and give a friendly little wave and they pause as they realize it's me and then come over to me. We exchange 'hello, how are yous' and 'isn't it odd that we'd meet heres', she says she almost didn't recognize me & compliments me on my hair (I think shocked that I have hightlights - not my old personality at all), ex and I chitchat for a minute, and then she takes the first conversation pause to politely get them out of there.

So the 'happy' in this is that I thought I would feel a upset seeing him with her or it would bring up the bad feelings of what they did to me, but I didn't feel much of anything. I felt a little twinge because they looked like a couple in love, but no more so than when I see other couples in love and it makes me a little wistful as I don't have that in my life (yet), but it's only a little twinge because I am content with my life and feel that will happen for me eventually. I took a good look at my ex and realized I don't feel anything for him anymore. No attraction, not really any anger or bitterness, not... anything. I can't even imagine myself with him. And her - no jealousy or bitterness. Funny thing is, I would have thought myself or my ex would be the most uncomfortable in that situation, but it seemed like OW was the one who was uncomfortable.

So not only am I over what happened, I know I'm going to fully enjoy my friend's wedding and I don't have any worries about how I'll feel seeing them. ::doing a happy dance::

-sang

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Thu, 07-28-2005 - 9:52am

Yeahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!


Way to go!


Inspriational story :)


It is funny how OW is the uncomfy one...... I guess "someone" is feeling slightly insecure? hehehhehehe.


GREAT!


I am so proud of you :)


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Thu, 07-28-2005 - 10:21am
Glad it went well!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Thu, 07-28-2005 - 1:07pm
Good for you!

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Thu, 07-28-2005 - 5:21pm

All right!!

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Thu, 07-28-2005 - 7:01pm

Yahoo! Good for you! I hope I can react with the same grace and peace when & if the same event happens to me... :)

PS. I bet you couldn't wait to get on here and tell us! I know it would be one of the first things I'd do! LOL!




Edited 7/28/2005 7:02 pm ET ET by browngirlie
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Fri, 07-29-2005 - 12:16pm

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LOL, yep. Got home too late that night, but the first things I did the next morning were call my best friend to tell her and then type up the post here. I would have avoided seeing them forever if I'd had a choice - that night if I'd been able to duck away before they saw me I would have, and at the upcoming wedding I'd have made sure to be at the opposite side of the room. But now I'm glad I had to face them. I've been trying to get to this point, but until I faced them I didn't know for sure whether I was really here. Only took me 3 years, but better late than never!

-sang

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Fri, 07-29-2005 - 12:22pm
3 years is great! Some people never get there. My ex's parents can't be in the same room with each other. At dd's christening, my ex's dad and the "OW" he'd been married to for probably 28 years or so felt they had to sneek in the back of the church after the services started and leave before they ended.

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Fri, 07-29-2005 - 6:27pm

Hi Sang,

Wow. That must be one of the situations we all think about in our mind...maybe it just isn't as bad as we imagine. I am glad you feel centered about it now, and that you can look forward to enjoying your friends wedding (even if they are there)...I see good things in life do go on. Thanks hun for sharing this. Have a wonderful weekend... Anna

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Sat, 07-30-2005 - 10:38pm
The best revenge...! And I bet the OW is secretly fretting over whether or not your ex is still thinking about how hot YOU looked that night...Love it!!