It's starting to hit the fan now...

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It's starting to hit the fan now...
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Wed, 03-07-2007 - 6:57pm

STBX finally saw an attorney yesterday who says my attorney must be a new guy since he's never heard of him. My attorney said it wasn't usually customary to have representation at the FOC Conciliation hearing. My STBX made it sound like the one I have is an idiot as his acted like attorneys being there is "a no-brainer". STBX's guy also says I have no right not being employed (I'm a SAHM) and that I should be working.

STBX has decided he wants 50% custody. He's been diagnosed with depression, poss. bipolar, but won't take his meds, dumped me for a married but separated woman who just happens to be his direct employee. The ho has the nerve to live at his trailer with him and order my kids around when they visit. He's also been emotionally abusive to me (making me feel totally worthless). His temper's been downright violent at times and has spanked my son (3 at the time) so bad his butt was bruised severely. He's also thrown a remote control at the older son. DEFINITELY not someone I want watching our kids.

I've noticed other posts in which people were able to get orders from the court limiting contact with GF until after divorce. Am I reading that right? I would so love to stop the whole "we're going to be your new family" thing for as long as I can.

STBX says that he's a "changed man" now since he's with the ho. He's been "living life in a fog" with me and he's so free now. Gag me! He's settled right in with her. Found out from older son that she's doing all his cleaning and cooking for him. She's turning into the slave I was so at least there's something to enjoy in this fiasco.

Last note: (BIG SMILE) his attorney has been reprimanded twice by the state bar for questionable practices. Mine of course has not, new guy or not!

Thanks for letting me rant. I needed that!

Lisa

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Registered: 02-27-2007
Wed, 03-07-2007 - 7:09pm

Good luck Lisa...

Im sorry that you are going thru this war with the stbx,
it does seem a little soon to be introducing a new gf to the kids, I hope they are ok.

If stbx's lawyer thinks you need a job--- let stbx pay for and support you while you go and get trained ina new proffesion!!!

I hope for everyone's sake he does not get the 50% custody. Not unless its whats best fort he kids, and it doesn't sound like it He needs to seek help
hopefully the judge can request the kids get counseling ot help make this transition easier.

good luck, my hugs and prayers are being sent you way