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| Thu, 06-16-2005 - 12:57am |
Well sort of a question. Please give me your opinions. I have tried taking ex to court for full physical custody in the past. All I got was sent to conflict resolution counceling. Ex had to go as well. That was back in Sept. We started calsses in Jan. 05.
Needless to say nobody was listening to me and my concernes.(EX- Ex didn't have the girls bathe at his house, he was verbaly abusive to me and about me to my girls, he had mounds of trash building up in the basement,consistantly late taking the kids to school.and so on)
Well I picked up the girls report cards from school and they were both tardy a total of 48 times this past year. Mind you he lives on the bus route and only lives 10 min. away from the school. His house phone keeps getting shut off. It's off for the second time in 3 months. Just the other day my 10 yo called me from his GF's cell phone to tell me it was so hot at dad's house because the electric guy came and shut off the electricity.
It's since been turned back on. The other thing is that I made up the difference for him on the girl scout cookies he ordered because he didn't have all the money when it was due.He still owes me $168. He has told me several time that he will have the money and never does.
OBTW he had custody of our dog since I was not able to keep him. The dog died in Jan and he left him in the dog house until sometime at the end of March or beginning of April. Then he finally burried him.
I can't get him to buy any clothes for the girls or even to pitch in for half of girl scout expenses. These are just some of the frustrations I've been dealing with lately.
I don't want to rock the boat because things between him and I have been very calm for the last few months. I'm just not sure what to do. I don't want my girls to go through another year of being late to school because of him. It shows they are only late on the days he has them. My 10 yo was getting teased because on the days she was with me she was on time. One kid always said "WOW, Krista broke her record.She's on time" She really hated school this year. Always being late and having a really bad teacher.
Does anyone have any words of wisdom? Any way I can approach ex without stirring the pot?
Please help.
K:)

That is totally unacceptable.... and the report card attendance record should be more than enough "proof" to try to get a change in EX's visitation schedule.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Thanks Karen,
I really have been trying to work with him. My dd also has sinus problems. I picked them up from ex's house today. I called to make sure they were getting ready and he told me Krista had problems with her ear and why is it that every time he gets them she has problems. So I decided to make a DR. appt. for her ear. She got up crying at 6 AM with her ear hurting.
I have been trying to do everything possible to keep her from getting an ear infection this year. She usually gets 1 a yr. When she started getting stuffythis past winter I took her to DR and discovered she has winter allergies or "dust allergies". SO no ear infection till now.
He has the ability to take her to the DR's and doesn't. His GF is a nurse.I think she tried to tell him it was leading that way but he didn't listen to her either. So she now has a full blown ear/sinus infection.SHe has to take Trimox for 14 days now.I decided to have his GF added to the list of acceptible people to bring DD's in if needed.Crossing my fingers she will be more responsible than him.
Ex doen't even have to pay a co-pay her insurance is fully covered even any meds are covered.
Sometimes I just want to scream. {{{{{{{{{{AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHH}}}}}}}}}}}}}
I feel better now LOL!
K:)