I've had it

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-05-2007
I've had it
1
Sun, 07-22-2007 - 5:01pm

I can't believe I am actually saying this. A month and a half ago my husband told me he didn't love me as a wife anymore. I would have done anything to keep us together at that point. And up until recently I would have also. But, after a few sessions of marriage counseling and the counselor telling me she believes he is bipolar, he is spiraling downhill. He never moved out like he said he would. And now he uses the house as a place to sleep at night and that's all. He will go out on his motorcycle until early morning hours, or go out with the "guys" (or so he says) and stay out until the next day or even for a few days. I have been trying to wait it out, since I have read that he is probably in a bp cycle right now and unable to really understand what I am saying to him, since his mind is racing.

Anyway, my daughter (15) stayed last night at a friend's house and, of course, my husband took off AGAIN. I checked the bank account online. It had 3.67 in it! I looked at the activity, and in the last week he has blown almost $1000. I confronted him on the money this morning, and he denied it and checked the account himself. He then tried to blame me! He also called me "mommy" and said I act like his mother by checking up on him. Sorry, they are my finances also, and I'm checking when I feel like it.

So I believe its time to ask him to leave. I'm tired of being a doormat and being the adult in this relationship. He's acting like a spoiled teenager nowadays, which is really unlike him and I can't take it anymore. Thanks for letting me vent.

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Registered: 11-28-2006
Mon, 07-23-2007 - 10:24pm

I am so so sorry. Sounds like a nightmare. I have been living one similar. GL to us both!

M