I've made the decision.... Now what?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-26-2006
I've made the decision.... Now what?
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Sun, 01-07-2007 - 11:57am

This morning I decided that I've had enough. I'm tired of the emotional roller coaster my husband has had me on for for the last 20 years. I deserve better, and I'm going to get it. I'm going to get a divorce! In some ways this has been the hardest decision I've ever had to make in my life, but now that it's done I feel relieved and ready to move on. Now I just have to figure out how, and when.

I've got 2 kids left at home, a 17 year old daughter, and a 15 year old boy. I wanted to try to keep the family intact until he was grown and on his own, but I really don't think I can do that now. I sure don't want to upset my daghters last year of high school either, so maybe I should at least wait until after her graduation in June? Also, my husband was laid off his job last summer, after 32 years. It's been a very difficult time for us, and him. Our savings is gone and we're selling some other investments to pay off our bills. I'm only working part time. It's not much, but it's really the only income we have other then his unemployment right now. If I wait until summer I can use the time to get a full time job and save up some money. I know he's not going to make it easy so I have to be prepared for the worse senario. I don't know if I can keep our home, or even if I want to. But, I don't want to have to move my son if I don't have to. He's only got 2 years left of school and I really would like him to finish here.

Wow... I'm seeing now that making the decision to get a divorce was the easy one. Now I've got to figure out what to do next.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 01-12-2007 - 3:58pm

Hi~


I know how you feel.... you've decided that you've got to do something.... and now you've got to get your ducks lined up.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~