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January Roll Call
| Tue, 01-09-2007 - 9:13pm |
Hey everyone... there are a bunch of new faces around here and we haven't done a roll call in a while, so please, sign on in with the information you feel comfortable sharing, such as name and location, as well as a bit about your situation...

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Hugs!
Hugs, Brenda
I'll start...
I'm Julie, mom to Joey (5). We live in GA. My xh and I divorced in 2004 after a 9 month separation. xh now lives in another state and is very behind on cs. I've btdt in so many ways, but stick around to lend a hand or a shoulder when I see one is needed or to get some support when something goes astray, because it is still happening, although now it is not about me and xh anymore, it is about xh and our son...
It does get better though--and it does take time... and I know how much I hated hearing those things when I was in the worst of it... but its true... You'll make it and things are much brighter on the other side!
My name is Gwen and I live in northern California. I found this board one year ago when my ex moved out. We had been separated but living under the same roof before he left, so I know the hell some of you are going through. I filed for divorce last January and it became final this past November.
The last year has been hell in so many ways. The worst was my ex bringing a new gf around my kids within a week of him moving out. But as of now it's getting so much better. I'm reacting less, and also learning to let go.
For those of you just starting the process, I promise it will get better. Just think of each day of this difficulty as one day closer to peace in your life. That's what I had to think to get through the first few months when I wasn't sure I would make it.
As hard as it is now, you will survive!
I'm in the same boat as you. My husband (we've been together 10 years, married for 5) has recently found an OW at work. When I discovered this (a couple of days before Xmas), the relationship was/is strictly emotional, not physical. It hurts me so much to say that there's an OW. I hate all of this; I'm very confused. I feel like this shouldn't have gotten so blown out of proportion. However, he admits that the relationship with OW is inappropirate and that he wants our marrige (but emails her when I'm not looking, Plus they work together).
I don't know what to think. We've made an appt for counseling, but the soonest appt is NEXT Friday. I feel like I'm losing my mind. And, I'm 3 months pregnant.
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Hi - good idea.
I live in Europe, ex lives in the US. Together since 16 yrs, married since 13, separated since 4 1/2. He dates OW since 8 (I know since 5). OW wants him to divorce without living me a penny.... he can't, so he is avoiding the issue. I don't want a messy divorce, but this is getting on my nerves, too much game playing.
If you have questions about international divorce... I am the person to ask to!!! LOL.
I am Rose - mother of two gorgeous girls soon to be 5 and 3 yrs old. This board has been an amazing source of support and knowledge for me.
H decided he was having a midlife crisis this past fall - he decided unilaterally to move out in Nov. I begged him to hang on until after the holidays for the kids. That may have been my biggest mistake.
We have since separated as of last week. I do think this is the right thing for us. I do not think that H can make the changes that I feel are absolutely necessary (aside from the fact that he refuses to compromise his expectations in any way. I cannot give him what he wants (raunchy sex). At the end of the day - I think we are a mismatch/uncompatible. I am dreading telling the kids (due to work schedules etc. we have been able to fudge the separation so far).
We are in the throws of this - have an appointment with a mediator in two weeks.
Rose
HI everyone!
I'm so sorry we are all here - but it is great to be able to go somewhere for support and understanding.
To keep it short, here is an overview:
Husband and I are both 28 - he is a full-time law student and I am a business consultant. Married 3 years, together 9. We have been in counseling on and off for about a year and a half. I finally broke down emotionally a few weeks ago and moved out with my babies (fur-babies that is - a saint bernard and german shepherd). I am staying at my parents for now (but paying all the bills on our place :( ) I have met with a lawyer but have not filed yet. I believe it is inevitable, but am giving myself a little more time to decide.
I am Melissa from Denver.
I am done. They talk on the phone constantly like little children. My heart has been ripped out but I cry less now and starting to think about how I can make a life for myself. This board has saved my sanity. I have been so deeply hurt and sad and alone but I can come here and vent.
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