Joey's Second Therapy Appt

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Joey's Second Therapy Appt
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Wed, 12-06-2006 - 10:19pm

We met with Dr. Bob again tonight and I was much more pleased with this session than I had been in the previous one--that was the first session and appeared to be more about background information and I didn't think that I got much out of it and he spoke around Joey but never to him...

Tonight was different... he asked for an update of since we last met... brought him up to speed with my grandfather's passing and then Joey's behavior recently at school, which has included some lowlights including Joey pulling his privates out and showing the girls last Friday... Joey hitting someone on the way to breakfast... crying (for hours) because he didn't want to take a nap... and hitting someone else today, so he lost his recess time...

He spoke to Joey and shared stories of children he has counseled in the past--the stories were very interesting to me and Joey did a decent job of paying attention. Joey was supposed to act out how he lays down for nap time at school--to practice, to make it easier and less of an issue, but Joey chose not to do it, so he didn't get to pick from the treasure chest at the end of the session. We have that as homework each night this week, to practice...

I think that he is starting to grasp some of the issues Joey is having, both at home and at school (I didn't feel that after the first session, when I felt like I was talking to myself most of the time) and I was encouraged by tonights session. We go back next Thursday for another round...

Julie

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Thu, 12-07-2006 - 11:49am
I am so glad that you posted this. My DH finally admitted last night that in January he wants to split (he left for a couple of days two weeks ago but decided to come back home for the holidays for the kids) His actions have been indicating that this was where we have been headed for a long time so I am taking it in stride I have good and bad days of course - but ofr the most part I feel a sense of relief).
My greatest concern is for that of our girls who are 4 & 2. I know they are going to be shattered when we tell them. I would like to have them both go to counselling in the hopes of being somewhat pro-active and ensuring that their feelings and needs are being heard/met. I haven't really seen very much posting on this topic here so I really do appreciate you sharing that info. Hopefully you will see some positive changes in Joey soon.
Best of luck,
Rose
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Thu, 12-07-2006 - 9:01pm

Rose...

You're welcome... in truth, my gut has been telling me to do this for a while, but when the school brought it up, it was just the kick in the pants I needed. His ped (who I do love) kept telling me that this was normal for a x year old boy and that this phase would pass... but its been tough for a while, so if I can give you any advice, I would recommend getting them in sooner than later, I wish I had...

Your ped may have some recommendations on pediatric psychologists... I really am encouraged. We "did our homework" tonight and Joey fought it a little bit, so we did 5 run throughs instead of the 3, but by the last one he was doing great...

Good Luck... being there for your kids and listening to them is so important...

*hugs*

Julie

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Sun, 12-10-2006 - 2:39pm

Hi~


Those first few sessions are really about getting to know each other, so it may take a little while for things to seem like they're rocking along in sync.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~