Joining you all .. still in shock
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Joining you all .. still in shock
| Sun, 11-11-2007 - 8:03am |
Hi all,
My name is Tiffany and I am sooo sad to have to be joining you, but so glad to have found somewhere to go to for support and understanding.

Tiffany,
First of all, a big hug to you. Cry, get it out and then you need to start looking out for yourself.
You need an attorney, don't just let him do all the paperwork. You should still be able to access the military family support center and they can assist you. (I'm a navy spouse) Ours has a mediator who works with divorce and they can give you info and advice that wouldn't be a conflict of interest. Also, if you are the first one to go to the military legal office they can represent you and not your husband.
Issues like being able to move home should be part of the settlement, he can't leave you high and dry. He may be the active duty member, but there are rules in place to prevent him from just leaving you to fend for yourself. Depending on how long you were married and how much that overlaps his time in service, you could still have benefits, don't take him at his word that you'll get nothing. Do your homework.
Take a deep breath, break this down into chunks you can manage and keep coming back here for support.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Hi Tiffany...
I am a lurker around here, but my situation was very similar to yours back in 2000.