Judge approved the divorce
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| Mon, 08-28-2006 - 7:01pm |
WOOHOO! The judge approved the divorce this morning. There are some modifications, however. X (No more STBX, LOL!) will pay me 15 in cash within 90 days. He will continue to pay the mortgage, and that will be taken out of the 15K. He'll keep track of the payments.
The judge chastised X and his lawyer for not having the business listed as an asset in his financial statement. So we had to wait 5 minutes while X and his lawyer filled out the appropriate info. My lawyer whispered to me, "Attorney A should get a REAL job"-- LOL
The house will hopefully be on the market soon, and hopefully finished very soon.
I still have questions about the mortgage/s... this morning, before everything was agreed to, X handed me TWO mortgage statements that are due within the week... One was for the re-fi we did 4 years ago, which is for 65K. The other is for I have NO idea. This was never answered to my satisfaction. With all the BS about the "loans" from his parents... my MIL saying that she and FIL "loaned" us 50K for our business-- they CO-signed a loan with us-- we didn't borrow money from them!-- something is NOT right.
1. The 65K re-fi.
2. The 50K home equity loan... we didn't spend the entire amount on our house-- paid off our car, paid some small credit card bills, and the large remainder was SUPPOSED to go toward house repairs, but DIDN'T. I think X put this into the business.
3. Then there was the loan we took out for the business, and another one that the ILs co-signed. AND now they're saying there was an additional 50K they "loaned" us?? My MIL itemized these "loans", and they were for the construction of the storage building... which SHOULD have been paid for with the loan that we took out for the business!
I DO NOT want to be saddled with the loan for the business... or the home equity that was SUPPSOSED to be for the house, but went for the business.
I just sent an email to my lawyer, maybe she can figure it all out...

Email from my lawyer this morning:
"You might think X is hiding things, but look realistically at what he has. Land that is maybe unusuable, many junkie cars, many junkie car parts, an old truck he drives, all JUNK. Really, if you think of it. You are rid of the "JUNK" Be happy. Attorney B."
The 2nd letter:
"Another thing. This is what I predict will happen with you. You will move to The Cape. It will take you time to adjust and mature to being single, not being able to rely on a "Bob." But, you are ready for that. You may work part of full time, but you will go back to school, and go to college part time, earn a diploma, feel really good about yourself, and maybe go on to get a Masters, maybe in psychology, maybe do counseling. DS may end up with his dad, as teenagers usually do, but he may not. DS will be impressed with "cars" but you will end up with the stability and family around which he needs. Bob, on the other hand, will stay the same, not grow the way you will. You will look back at this divorce with a sense of humor, and say, "My lawyer predicted right!" We will remain friends forever, and you will invite me to your next wedding IF you get married again."
Your lawyer sounds very intuitive!
Congratulations... and I hope that all of the loan stuff gets worked out (and that all of the divorce paperwork lists all loans, by account number, and who's responsible for paying which items).
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~