Just became single

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Registered: 08-15-2006
Just became single
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Wed, 12-06-2006 - 4:38pm
My divorce has just been final. Why do I feel so sick to my stomach? He has been gone for a year now. Why do I feel so sad, feel like crying. Maybe because I still love him, when I should hate him, because he is the one who left and wanted this divorce. Maybe am just scared? I got married when I was 21 years old, now single at 37 with 3 kids. The pain he has caused hurts so much. I guess like they say as one door closes a new one opens. Maybe its for the best. I hope one day to find someone who will love me, for me not for how they want me to be. Then why do I feel this way?
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 5:49pm
I can't explain why you are feeling what you are feeling, but I can tell you you aren't alone. Big Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Registered: 08-15-2006
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 6:13pm
Thanks Brenda. Its just been hard, this year. Too much fighting, has gone on.
Life has to move on, no matter how bad the road gets. Its just sad, to know that
we were once two people in love. He left me loving him. Its hard to let go.
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Registered: 12-04-2006
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 7:35pm

I just wanted to tell you that I can relate to your feelings, as I have had a fairly similar experience emotionally with the breakup of my marriage. Even though many days I feel like I can't possibly accept this and survive, I know that it will get better. The bad days will decrease as we take care of ourselves and work on greiving and healing. And one morning (albeit some point in the future we can't imagine today) we'll wake up we'll know that we're going to be ok.

Take care, find help though counseling, your church or a support group and count the blessings of your wonderful children.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 9:55pm

Because its really over... and even when you want it and you've moved on/out, etc it actually becoming finalized can still be traumatic... Accept this as yet another hill on the rollar coaster we call divorce...

It will get better...

*hugs*

Julie