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| Fri, 06-09-2006 - 11:15am |
My DD(16) has an eye appointment tomorrow. She has worn glasses since she was 5 years old. She has been begging for contacts for awhile now, but I have been reluctant because of her hygiene (lack of). When I made the appointment the receptionist asked if she would be getting contacts. I explained the situation to her and she told me they would evaluate her first that we didn’t necessarily need to order them on the spot. And, they have a training session on how to care for them.
So, when I told her about the appointment she asked about contacts. I told her about the evaluation, but I did not commit to anything. I also reminded her why she has not gotten them yet and things would have to change for me to consider it.
Yesterday I sent her father (my ex) an e-mail to let him know about the appointment. I also wanted to remind him he is 50% responsible for the bill. This morning he replied to my e-mail stating he never agreed to contacts and he wasn’t going to pay because they aren’t a “medical need”. I told him she was not definitely getting contacts (most likely not), but glasses are a “medical need”.
Argh!!! I am the one who provides health, dental and vision insurance for the kids. It is a HUGE expense every month. Technically he should be paying half of their co-pays every time I take them to the doctor, but I don’t even bother.
I can’t wait-6 more years and I won’t have deal with him any more. It is all about money with him. But I am blood-sucking and money hungry.

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I wear contacts and have since I was just 13. Way back then when I got them, they were very expensive and we took insurance out on them in case one ripped or got lost! Now they're pretty cheap, in fact a year of contacts for me (I throw them away every 2wks and I use an odd perscription and they're not very easy to find) is less than $150 for me. That's a lot less than a nice pair of glasses! My suggestion to you is if her prescription is the same as she has now or very close, get her the lenses and have her keep the old glasses for a backup. I highly recommend getting her contacts. I have terrible vision and wore glasses from the time I was five as well. If you are seriously worried about her cleaning them regularly, you can even get silicone ones that she'll keep in for a MONTH! NO cleaning required! Those are more pricey, but definately worth it. I'd still be in those, but they stopped making my prescription the stinkers. That's just my two cents. I hated wearing glasses and I will get my son contacts in the next few years if he wants.
Melanie
Thanks.
I would love for her to have contacts, but I have seen how she is. We spend $3000 on braces for her teeth back in 2000 when she was 10. She had them for 3 years. I don’t think she even brushes her teeth some days. I know she goes straight upstairs most nights without going near the bathroom and she is usually rushing out the door for the bus in the morning. Showers are another issue too. She has always been like this. At first I thought it might be a rebellion against puberty but we are way beyond that now. She will hang her head over the tub to wash her hair, but that is it. Wouldn’t it be much faster to just get in the shower??? She is just lazy. Both my husband and I, as well as her father, have talked to her about this to see if there is something wrong. The funny thing is her brother (12) is anal about being clean.
She just got asked out on a real date for the first time. I am so afraid she is going to get hurt. What guy is going to put up with a pig?
The date may be just what she needs! She may feel the pressure to impress and look nice and clean. My DD at 11 is so good about showers and brushing thank goodness. I think for some kids it just clicks one day. Good luck!
Mel
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
And another thought about "corrective lenses" (glasses or contacts).
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Actually he wore glasses since he was a kid. When he met me I convinced him to try contacts. He wore those for about 14 years until he had laser surgery in 2002. When were driving back from Montreal (where he had the surgery) he turned and said to me “now I am almost perfect”. I really don’t think he was kidding.
He dragged me all the way up there in case he couldn’t drive home. He made me sleep in a separate bed at the hotel. After his post-op appointment at 9:00 am we left to come home. He wouldn’t even stop for coffee or breakfast. I found out the following year he was cheating on me at the time. He just used me for a ride home. Nice guy!
And, I'm sure, he was motivated to have the surgery because of his new.... "lifestyle"????
I got contacts in high school, after wearing glasses since the 6th grade.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
My daughter just called me in tears. She had just talked to him on the phone. He is mad because I contacted him via e-mail and told him he would have to pay half. He said I had no right to demand he pay half. HELLO YOU MORON-IT IS WRITTEN IN BLACK & WHITE IN THE DIVORCE DECREE. He also told her they are not medically necessary and that I get thousands of dollars every month so I should just pay for them. He also said I could call him to discuss it. No way, I am at work and I am not going to get into it with him on the phone. Besides, e-mails are proof of what happened. He could agree on the phone and turn around later and say he never did (BTDT). He knows I will not call him, so when she doesn’t get her contacts, he will turn around and say he was willing to pay half but I never called him.
HE IS SUCH A PUTZ!!!!
Just tell your daughter that you and her dad have an agreement, and you were just keeping him updated about what's happening... and that she doesn't have to worry.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
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