Just do not know what to do anymore.....
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Just do not know what to do anymore.....
| Thu, 12-28-2006 - 10:04am |
My husband and I have been married for 10 years, together for 14. We have a young daughter. Our marriage has been deteriating for years and lately it has been so unbareable. My husband does not want to go to counseling and says that are problems are because I nag and control but there are things that have occurred in the past that cause me to have to do this to protect my daughter and myself from some of the irrational things he does (habitual lying and making a mess out of our finances). I just hate the stress and the fighting, yet I cannot afford to live in our home on my own and hate the thought of moving my daughter away from her home, friends and school to a small apartment somewhere. Have any of you been here and how did you work through making all of the hard decisions? It seems like a nightmare I will never wake from.

Hi Karry,
If your husband won't go to marriage counseling with you, then go by yourself. You can benefit from this and learn how to help yourself.
You also have power to take control of what you can in regard to the family finances. There's no law that says you can't have your own bank accounts. So, open some in your name only. Put aside money whenever you can and establish your own checking account, if you need one.
The other suggestion I have is look into any kind of educational programs or job training program that may be available to you through a local community college or the state office of employment. You'd be surprised how much is available to you if you look.
What you need is a plan. This will empower you and give you something to work toward rather than sitting and feeling trapped and hopeless. Good luck.
CL-Wisdomtooth2020